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Honestly, I get it's a green text, but this is pretty easily explained. First off: dating is fucking expensive, and unfortunately standard gender roles means the dude foots the bill most of the time. Yes times are changing, but that's still pretty standard. Pair that with the fact that dudes usually have to make the first move (again, old gender standards) and the fact that social media adds another layer of risk of being ridiculed or making someone viral because they were 'crimge' or 'gave the girl the ick' and it's a pretty stacked deck. Hell, point one is such a strong weigh in that it's enough to explain all of it. People are more broke than ever, and if dating by default involves going out, well guess that date isn't going to happen.
I recently ended a 6 year relationship. I'm not going to settle down with anyone again unless they have their own stuff going on like a career and goals. I think a lot of women expect men to manage all the finances, set goals, plan vacations and provide stability but they don't want to do the traditional gender role stuff like cooking and cleaning or making a home. So what's the point? Why make someone else's life easier if they don't do the same for you? had a son young(I was 19 when I had him) and he's 11 now, so it's not like I'm dreaming of starting a family. Most women bring nothing to the table. And if you're lucky enough like me to have a good income, house, car, etc... you realize a lot of things are easier living alone.
Women want the princess treatment but don't know how to act like a princess. Beyond that, sex isn't all it's hyped up to be. I know I sound like a redpill incel but dating shouldn't be a priority for anyone. What's the rush? Don't fall for the first thing you see, make sure they're worth it first.
If you decide to date again, you should consider dating liberal women. The only women I have known who are like you describe are conservative(and I have met one or two who expect the princess treatment and then don't deliver on the prince treatment!). I know conservative men who expect traditional roles, and I know conservative men who expect to split the bills and say they'll split the housework but then the woman ends up doing all the housework anyway. The women in that situation end up feeling like you: if I'm doing the housework AND working, this is easier on my own!
In my liberal circles things seem to be a bit more evenly split, and both partners are often more independent.
It seems like you're happy on your own though, so you're doing the right thing by removing yourself from the dating pool! Maybe you'll find someone independent who will be a good match naturally, but I can't imagine a woman would want to work and split the housework with someone who has your attitude ("most women are bad and not worth having around") so you might need to change that if you do decide to get back into dating. I can't connect on what you mean on sex not being the best thing in the world and the literal purpose of life, but I do know my husband felt like you on that front before he met me. He thought people were just exaggerating on how good it is. Maybe, like him, you just haven't met the right match there either? It's not like I'm even that good in bed, if anything I'm a bit of a selfish lover. It's just that we're a good fit together. Good luck, man. I hope you find the right fit and realize men and women are equally selfish and equally selfless.
Controversial opinion, but I believe anesthesia is even better than sex. If you're ever been put under for surgery, you know what I'm talking about.
And they say that DMT can top even that. Only problem is that you have to take a trip outside the US to get it.
Oh my God! Someone else that enjoys being put under! I wouldn't say it is quite pleasurable, but definitely a fun experience. It's like time travel. You remember them telling you to count down from ten, you get to 7-6 and then BAM, you are waking up after the operation is done. I've had 3 surgeries and they have all been pretty fun experiences, but to be fair, I've never had complications and non of them were life threatening.
Kanye would agree