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First off: you're not disgusting. Those who do that to other people are.
As the other commentor said: seek therapy as fast as you can. If you can. Everything we say here can potentially make it worse....
Out of mind-out of sight only works superficially and temporarily, if at all, and it will come back anyway, hitting you even harder and making you run (from your thoughts) even faster next time. Yet despite that is keeping a distance to them (And new arseholes!) absolutely imperative! Having witnessed that so many times it makes sad.
I don't know any details about your abuse, but should you ever consider going back, for whatever reason: don't. It happens all the time and it's never ever a good thing.
I wish you all the power to keep away and get better dear random internet stranger.
Thank you!! 🫂
They harassed me, spread rumors about me, dehumanized me, made fun of my weight, tried to get me to hurt and starve myself, tried to get me to have no friends, and tried to get me to suffer. They came up with reasons for these things because of my behaviors which they accused me of stalking them and being weird all because I’m autistic and tried to start a conversation with them.
They also call me loud when I say anything to them. When I ask for clarification, I’m stupid. When I ask them why they’re upset, they tell me to mind my own business, “you stalker!” After a while, I realized this behavior was not at all normal.
Be glad you actually realized it and we even have this chat. And this is beyond bullying, this is top-level-abuse and shows all the usual signs of manipulation and gaslighting. Can't repeat it often enough: keep the fuck out of their reach. forever. Physically at least, mentally they will probably live rent-free in your head for a while longer (but you will learn to make peace with, or, at least, cope with it). It might sound trivial, but one of the simplest and best rules in (social) life is: Keep toxic people out of your life. Period. Even if it's blood. Or especially if it's blood. Make your own family out of friends and soulmates. If you ever have the feeling someone might not be good for you, he most likely isn't. Fuck this person and move on. You're only here once, why waste it with some ass-clowns that don't even care about you?
I'm sorry you had/have to go through all this, noone deserves such treatment. But hey, you made the first step and this is the most important one. Acknowledging there even IS a problem. And you even acted upon it.
And one for the road: Being autistic doesn't make you weird. It, at best, makes you slightly deviate from the baseline of normality. And that's what makes people actually interesting, not boring run-of-the-mill-copycats with no own opinions. But this is just my misanthropic point of view :-)
That seems like severe bullying to me.
Yeah, it’s bullying, but constant and really bad and harmful rather than just rude teasing