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My spouse and I have been together for almost 30 years and I see no sign of us parting ways anytime soon. We're both persuaded we've lasted that long because we were both ok with the fact that the other is not perfect or faultless.
I will let anyone decide for themselves what limits should be made in a couple, and I will keep ours to ourselves, but even crossing those limits it should always be ok to try to fix it provided both parties are doing it with the right mindset and a willingness to be/to act better.
That's what we both think and that's how we managed to get through quite a few... difficult times, but that doesn't make it an indisputable truth either. It's just our 2 cents ;)
If you will never forgive cheating ever that is fine that is your boundary I can not tell you what to do I am not arguing you have a moral obligation to forgive cheating.
However I argue that in your emotional and material best interest you should keep dialog open and see what they offer and try to make it work
I think it's what I said