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[–] Almonds@mander.xyz 72 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Anti-trans bills are failing in places like Montana, because our trans legislators are real people (not made-up perverts) who are able to articulate how these bills affect them, as real people, to their colleages on both sides of the aisle.

Zooey Zephyr made such an incredible case last year when she talked about the impact on parents rights if she was no longer able to walk her child to school. Because, yes, she's a transgender woman, but she's a loving parent who is deeply involved in her child's life. In fact, she had introduced her child to her colleages during certain work events. So every one of those asshats who drove that bill forward understood they would be hurting more than the "buzz word" out-group if they voted for it.

Sometimes I wish I lived in her district just so I could vote for her, because nothing makes these Montana red hats madder than realizing they might lose freedoms and she capitalized so perfectly on that.

Sorry, little bit of ramble lol. I think I'm just having a good day and want to have some kind of hope despite the impenetrable dark clouds hanging over us

[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 37 points 3 weeks ago

There are for sure bright spots, and Zooey Zephyr’s work is definitely one of them!

I do try to not drown in all the bad news, I’m just particularly upset about the closure of the trans clinic at the Los Angeles Children’s Hospital recently. So many kids depended on it, and we’re not even in a red state! The people who are supposed to step up are just immediately buckling when a stiff breeze blows.

We will get through this, because it’s not actually possible to stop trans people from existing. But not all of us will get through it. Decades ago I was a trans kid with zero support who tried to kill myself, and I’m basically only here by stupid luck. It’s gut wrenching that even the ‘safe’ areas are fine throwing kids into dealing with that rather than put up any resistance to MAGA.

And yeah, the irony of typing up such a dark comment immediately after saying I do try to focus on the bright spots isn’t lost on me, lol.