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i'm scared for our future (thelemmy.club)

submitted 1 day ago by nonBInary@thelemmy.club to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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so i (f) recently got into a talking stage with "isla" (nb) and we kinda have a "slow burn" type thing going on. i'm lowkey scared because they really do wanna decide if we should be friends or be in a relationship. i really like them and want a relationship with someone and also don't want to rush. last time i rushed, things went badly and ended in a few months.

i'm scared, though, they will decide i'm a better friend than a gf, though there are some good signs like them at least having feelings for me.

i know we'll still get to chat if they decide we should just be friends but i guess i'm just scared for whatever reason. i don't mean to be panicky, i guess i'd just like to have someone who's more than a friend.

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[–] sym@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Hello, I'm sorry you are going through these feelings and I know it feels scary. I'd just like to say that it's very important for your mental health to understand your happiness doesn't depend on a single person. Remind yourself that even if they choose just to be friends, you will be okay. Hope this helps.

[–] nonBInary@thelemmy.club 4 points 22 hours ago

thank you so much :D this helped. i will be ok.