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I am... mostly straight (heh), and I have had multiple gay dude friends who were just platonic friends.
Yes, absolutely this can work, why would anyone think otherwise?
Lotta straight guys could probably get some decent fashion and grooming tips, I know I did, hahaha!
Also, entirely serious, gay dudes can make some of the best wingmen ever for their staight buds.
You can just actually do this.
Some people think you can't be friends with people of a gender you're attracted to. And as a bisexual, I can confirm that I have never seen anyone as a friend, only prey.
Bravo! you made my morning coffee go up my nose.
We're ace-spec and find the concept of attraction difficult for most people, except if we have a strong emotional connection to them.
However we also find the deliniation between like and love difficult too, we don't really understand the desire or ability to split feelings and what we'd like to do with a person based on a mere label such as 'friend' or 'partner'. This is part of the reason we chose to identify as relationship anarchists and discuss explicitly with each person what they and us are okay with and do so ocassionally over time too.
We also, not based on attraction but societal values and ideas, don't see any relationship we have with anyone or anymany automatically important or successful. For example 'familial' relationships, like any relationship, if the others connected to us wish to have such a relationship go well then they have to work at it as much as any relationship, regardless of label or assumed worthiness to a certain type of connection or things they are allowed or not allowed to say and/or do.
So yes, we can be 'friends' with anyone or anymany, but the label alone means very little.
Yeah I've never understood that (first sentence) way of thinking.
I had more platonic gal friends than guy friends growing up, because most of the guys were insecure, boisterious, idiot assholes.
Simple as.
As for the second sentence, well, if we ever meet st the same bar, I'll make sure to be coy at first and then stern, but polite, hahahaha!
There are simply those I have and have not conquered