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For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

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[–] MyDarkestTimeline01@ani.social 4 points 4 days ago (7 children)

Ultimately it's your kid so I would not presume to tell you what to do with it. I will tell you that its popularity in America stemmed from a time period where they knew that removing that little bit of foreskin desensitized your penis which they believe made you less likely to play with yourself.

That being said I am also circumcised and I think I would prefer that but......I don't know of anything else. For all I really know my QoL might have been better had I not been.

[–] anton@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

I will tell you that its popularity in America stemmed from a time period where they knew that removing that little bit of foreskin desensitized your penis which they believe made you less likely to play with yourself.

I don't know if it stoped anyone, but having the skin certainly makes it easier. When I found out English speakers (probably mostly Americans) needed lube/soap to masturbate, I was confused.
Also you can feel whan it's pulled back in your pants and I wouldn't want to have that feeling every day.

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Ordinary movement isn't an issue. When flaccid, the corona is generally still covered and underwear moves with it so there isn't really friction. The only time I've ever had an issue is when bicycling. For some reason the mechanics can lead to side to side friction right on the tip and it's pretty uncomfortable when that happens.

[–] Imhotep@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

So that's why Americans love cars so much

[–] MyDarkestTimeline01@ani.social 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

That and internal combustion engines are amazing in terms of energy to torque power.

[–] Imhotep@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

needed to tow those massive US johnsons is what you meant?

[–] forkDestroyer@infosec.pub 3 points 4 days ago
  1. We don't need lube to masturbate. I never understood that. Maybe I just got lucky?
  2. I want my foreskin back :'(
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