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This is my 100th post. Ive been using lemmy close to two years now. (lemmy.world)
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Kind of crazy how time flies. I joined with the api exodus. Since then lemmy has become my primary social media platform. I engage here daily more than I ever did with anything else.

We did it. We finally have a platform that isnt just a dig suceesor. I feel Lemmy is the biggest achievement in open source federated technology since web 1.0 BBS.

I am happy to help contribute to lemmy growth across 2 years, 1.4k comments, and 100 post.

I rarely use reddit anymore for viewing post and never comment on anything by comparison. I run my own versions of the communities that kept me there. I encourage my communities to be a more positive and engaging space and so far its really payed off. I create art and engage in my hobby for Lemmy posting content.

Been good few years here and I'm glad to have this chance to be interacting with all of you. Its nice that were small enough to recognize psudonyms and socially network. Its amazing how being a little friendly and recongizing people across interactions can lead to good vibes all around.

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[–] barneypiccolo@lemm.ee 3 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I came here after the recent post-Inauguration bloodbath, when they permabanned many of their veteran, high-volume posters like me (12 years, 900K+ karma).

Lemmy definitely feels more free, and i certainly dont miss the puns, trolls, bots, Russian Propaganda Farmers, novelty accounts, etc.

I really miss the guitar subs, though. Reddit's are active and fun, and a great place to interact, get advice, give advice, watch players post performances of their progress, etc. I've seen several very young players turn into known talents, like Grace Bowers.

Lemmy still has a lot of growing to do, but so did Reddit when i started.

[–] Smokeydope@lemmy.world 3 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

When I first picked up guitar and my string broke, I didn't know what to do or if I fucked up loosing the ball end. I asked !guitars@lemmy.world for help and everyone there was so supportive in helping me understand what happened.

We will get there but it will take time and effort on everyone's part. Gotta be the change ypu want to see. Take a picture of your guitar and post. Record a 30 second sample upload it to youtube or a peertube instance and post, recommend a sweet tab you think others would like to play and post. Make a slingshot from a guitar string and post. And comment comment comment supportively under everyone else's post so they are engaged to make more. Be hands on, become a mod of a inactive community and make it your baby if that helps.

[–] Pregnenolone@lemmy.world 6 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I’m a comment leaver more than a poster, but I’m doing my part!

[–] Christobootswiththepher@lemmy.world 1 points 12 hours ago

Reporting for duty, sir!

[–] voxthefox@lemmy.world 5 points 14 hours ago

Left reddit during the api snapfu as well, been mainly a lurker with a few comments, but I'm definitely glad I made the shift, everything feels better here for a social environment. The only thing I go back to reddit for is the porn haha. (Which lemmynsfw instance is slowly catching up on)

[–] ApollosArrow@lemmy.world 2 points 14 hours ago

Oh man, I need to really increase my activity. I am very behind.

[–] wildncrazyguy138@fedia.io 27 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Fellow REST exile here. It took some getting used to at first since the engagement was lower, but I prefer it over Reddit now for sure. For one, it still feels like the early days of Reddit, most posts don’t just go unreplied or ignored. Most of the content is fresh and not a repost. Meme posts are a steady stream but not overwhelming and recycled.

It’s like living in medium sized town and I quite like it.

[–] rbn@sopuli.xyz 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It’s like living in medium sized town

I really like that analogy and think it fits quite well! There are by far too many users to know them all, but as you scroll through your feed and all, you keep recognizing users who you once had a discussion with or who keep posting or commenting interesting stuff to your favorite communities.

[–] andyburke@fedia.io 5 points 1 day ago

I ran a BBS back when the computers had to screech at each other and I always described the feeling of the rise of the internet as "moving from a small town to the big city."

I very much appreciate this analogy.

[–] cronenthal@discuss.tchncs.de 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I just arrived here recently, but I was blown away by the sheer joy of having an actual social space again. Lemmy gives me early 2000s feelings and, given the underlying technology, it might just stay that way.

I realized how little I wanted to go back to reddit after about a week, uninstalled the app, blocked links to reddit in lemmy and never looked back.

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 1 points 17 hours ago

Lemmy gives me early 2000s feelings and, given the underlying technology, it might just stay that way.

why do you all have to be so stuck in the past?

[–] sunnytimes@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

nice work!! i just got here. better late than never ! . i like it so far , my reddit usage will decline.

[–] Smokeydope@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Welcome sunnytimes :) Im sure you will settle in nicely. Things get even better the more curated your sub feed and block list become.

[–] crawancon@lemm.ee 10 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I don't post much but I'll sure comment just like I'm doing now! wow. look at me go!

[–] SomGye@dormi.zone 5 points 1 day ago

well done, well done

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 1 points 17 hours ago

Please post more

[–] sparky1337@ttrpg.network 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Engagement is way up in normal forums like politics etc. compared to 2 years ago.

Oddly, since the community is so small I get some news articles way faster than if you were on Reddit. By a few hours in most cases unless it’s some crazy event.

But the niche ones are still struggling. The initial boom from the api exodus was good, but momentum quickly faded after ~2 months.

This stuff will grow eventually. There was a metric on Reddit ages ago that listed the top 1% of contributors were responsible for 99% of the content. Most were lurkers or non account holders.

[–] Coelacanth@feddit.nu 8 points 1 day ago

The 90-9-1 rule holds for most stuff like this, and while the early adopter crowd like the current Lemmy population might conceivably skew the numbers slightly, I wouldn't expect it to be by much.

57k MAU is still small potatoes in the grand scheme of things. Niche subs still rely on single users doing almost 100% of the posting and will remain that way until probably way over 100k MAU. Maybe 200k?

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You and me both, cousin! Well, not the "hundred posts" part. I'm more of a comment guy.

[–] vfscanf@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Cool, I also joined recently and I find Lemmy to be much nicer than reddit. Every community seems just more positive.

But there are many people here that want this to be the next reddit and that worries me a little. Every now and than, when I scroll through the feed, I see a post that reminds me of the bad old times on reddit. Thankfully it doesn't get as much engagement as on reddit, and the responses are a lot more reasonable.

But I have to say: if you want this platform to be reddit, and you succeed, you've just rebuild the platform you were running away from. That should not be the goal

[–] Rentlar@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Nice going! You made me check and I realize I was at 200 posts myself.

Lemmy is a great place to discuss stuff, I've been enjoying talking to most people here.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 12 hours ago

Yes it's really friendly and nice here, people don't want a fight like they often do on reddit. There's less hysteria.

[–] JVT038@feddit.nl 6 points 1 day ago

Wow, congrats! I just checked my profile and realized I have hit the 100 mark too.

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 1 points 17 hours ago

How are you able to use this more than Reddit? Do you think you have any background that might help explain it? I'm honestly confused as to how people are able to enjoy this thing.