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The Internet. Social media in particular.
I used to be a "information wants to be free" pure techno-optimist who thought the availability of data at all times would immediately cause a massive boost in awareness, education and intelligence worldwide.
I was super wrong. It was all a mistake and it should be burnt to the ground. Yes, including this place.
I was having good time until Smartphones got invented. Letting the masses (morons) get access to instant communication effortlessly and cheap fucked us.
I mean, in a lot of ways the social media takeover is the antithesis to freedom of information. It's all siloed off echo chambers where it used to be free flowing, publicly available, indexable and searchable.
I still believe in the freedom of information goal more than ever, but fighting for it in the post information era is increasingly difficult (and important)
It's the Web 2.0 model of corralling people into walled garden platforms, where they're driven insane. One day people will look back at this time and wonder what we were thinking.
The video game industry. (Indie games are on fire lately, though.)
AA is where it's at now. There's still insanely good games coming out, there just not by companies like EA and Activision anymore.
In some ways I think the good development studios are the same size they've always been, it's just that a new class of mainstream games has risen to profit on the masses. If you ignore those, it's not so bad. At least not until one of the AAA publishers gets their hands on them to ruin the IP and layoff the original devs
A lot of AA studios have been cramming in a ton of microtransactions still, whereas indie is mostly devoid of it, but it definitely gets a lot better the more A's you remove.
I took to kindly, although I was not entirely onboard with, the idea of American exceptionalism.
Humanity.
In the past I liked how easy it is when one company offer products to basically everything (i.e. Google), but now that I see the consequences, I'm somewhat disturbed.
Christianity and the Democratic Party.
When did any religion deserve respect?
Sure, respect the person (to a point), but not the belief in fairytales
Same goes for any superstitious woo
Things are different when you're raised in it.
Indoctrination is fucked
If people waited until kids were actually capable of reasoned thought before bringing up the idea of religion, it'd die out within a generation
Americans.
Hulk Hogan
Romantic relationships as promoted by society. After dating so many different types of men and always being let down, I've decided it's not worth my time.
And after hearing so many stories of cheating partners doing shady shit, breaking people's hearts, perpetrating abuse, gambling life savings away, etc., I've decided it's a bunch of BS that either works for very few people, or you need to seriously compromise and overlook a lot of shit with the average person. And I'm so done with that and I'm also frustrated and jaded.
So now when I see a couple all lovey dovey i see them with derision and I start to wonder how long they have until the inevitable breakup or if one of them is doing some shit on the side.
On average, only 14% of those in a couple say they are not very or not at all satisfied with their relationship with their spouse or partner, while 84% say they are somewhat or very satisfied.
And this
The failure rate for first marriage is roughly 48%, 60% for second and 70% for third marriages [source], but at the same time, in 2019 for every 1000 marriages, only 7.6 resulted in divorce, which is the lowest divorce rate in the past 50 years.
So I would not say it is that rare to live happy married life. But it is not like everyone is getting this life. With a hard work I think it is totally possible and is not that rare at all... Although none of those studies give a direct answer on how many happy lifelong relationships there are. One can conclude somewhere between 30-40% of relationships are happy lifelong relationship. And even if this number is lower like 10-20% this is still a very significant number.
When I talk about relationships with my sister she has similar view as you. She can almost never see a truly happy relationship. While I can see it everywhere
It turned out our environments are drastically different. For example she met all of her partners at parties. This is not a general population. While I met my wife in school.
I made most of my friends in school or at work or from being a neighbor (ie owning a house). Most of them are educated and with higher income. If I remember correctly those also have better statistics for relationship success. While my sisters friends are none of that.
I believe it would be wise for you to check if your environment screwed your view too.
Whoa, that's a very nice reply! Thank you, and thank you for taking it seriously, too. I was being downvoted and I was hoping you hadn't taken the question the wrong way. I'm glad that's not the case because I'm genuinely curious.
Ah, I should've stated that I'm gay. That's the biggest factor. It feels like it multiplies all those percentages by a way smaller fraction because the dating pool is a puddle. I honestly don't see many people that I like who would be interested in a monogamous relationship because I think queer culture in my country has different priorities, so it feels like it raises the stakes and the pressure every time I give a relationship a go with someone who seems compatible. I've even changed my views to match the culture, but no luck yet.
And let me just vent this, but my luck has run so ridiculously bad that even the guy who bragged about having had three different 5-year relationships and got me starry-eyed left out that his last one had been abusive for years and tried that shit on me too. These things tend to linger in my mind, y'know? It's rough out there.
Other than the usual ACAB and distrust of government.
Probably parents.
I used to think they actually looked out for my interests.
Now I know the harsh reality is that:
No one, not your parents, not your siblings, not even your "best" friends, literally no one will care about you. Its every person for themselves
