Lode Runner (NES) might be okay. Not multiplayer, but it's got nice low-stakes puzzling gameplay.
Edutainment games are a bit few and far between on consoles - Donkey Kong Jr. Math springs to mind, but it's remarkably dry for a Nintendo game.
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Lode Runner (NES) might be okay. Not multiplayer, but it's got nice low-stakes puzzling gameplay.
Edutainment games are a bit few and far between on consoles - Donkey Kong Jr. Math springs to mind, but it's remarkably dry for a Nintendo game.
My kid used to love one of the Kirby games for the Wii, where the three of us could play at the same time. I can't remember the name of it, but I'm pretty sure it was previously released for the SNES. It was the one with Armor Knight, if I'm remembering the character name correctly.
Meta Knight?
Sorry, yes, Meta Knight :)
City Connection, Bugs Bunny's Crazy Castle. While neither are co-op my mom and took turns playing crazy castle on the nes when I was a kid and we beat it. Core memory right there.
I think Tetris or Doctor Mario had 2 player modes but I'm not sure.
Does Sonic Spinball on the Genesis have multiplayer?
Not that I recall re: Spinball, but hot damn i loved that game
Does Sonic Spinball on the Genesis have multiplayer?
Technically yes, but it's old arcade style "pass the controller, it is player 2's turn" - so not really.
Are you committed to using the R.Pi1? You could emulate on your computer or phone (connected to the TV) to have way more options.
How adept is your little one with games? My 4 year old loves any and all Mario games. He plays sitting on my lap. I celebrate his successes and he passes me the controller when he gets to a section too difficult for him. This is mostly with Mario 3D land (3DS) these days.
It's single player, but too good to miss: "Richard Scary's Busy Town" (Genesis) is a fantastic open ended set of mini-games that are fun and accessibible to almost all skill levels of gamer.
Fun-N-Games (Genesis/Megadrive) is mostly single player, but has many mini games accessibile to young gamers.
Mega Bomberman (Megadrive) and Super Mega Bomberman (SNES) both have multiplayer mode where players can team up against bots, and the bots have adjustable difficulty (different bot skins have different AI).
Edit: Re violence - you blow each other and bot players up with bombs. Players that die disovle the way Pac-Man does.
I was going to recommend Bomberman. Super Bomberman 4 on SNES in particular is very fun, you can grab not only bombs but opponents too, and there are cool mounts with special powers. A bit chaotic in some arenas, but the classics are still there of you want them, and then when everyone gets better ot wants a quick laugh, you can go for the crazier ones.
A c64 emulator? Then basically anything, LOCO maybe?
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Alley Cat Remeow Edition is a fan remake of Alley Cat, an arcade game, with up to 4 players, but it's PC (should still run on that hardware, i hope!)
Super Baseball Simulator (SNES) is competitive, but can be really chill if the adult player throws easy pitches, and the super powers are hilarious.
Snake Rattle and roll! For the NES.
Kirby Super Star
My Famiclone childhood:
Mario Bros (the first one, with POW block in the middle.) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mario_Bros.
Battle City, known more by its pirated version name: Tank 1990 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_City
You know what? Gyromite and Stack-Up, the games made to be played with R.O.B. You play the robot. I don't know many co-op multiplayer games on the NES. Maybe Chip & Dale, or Mario Bros. (not Super, the arcade game - though in 2025, I suggest Kaetekitta(sp?) Mario Bros., the rerelease). Bomberman might have cartoon violence, but I don't think it's going to scar a kid.
On SNES, there's Secret of Mana if you want to try for depth. I forget if any of the sports games let you go co-op. Pocky & Rocky (and other cute 'em ups) might be fun too.
Actually, general suggestion, cute 'em ups. Cotton, Twinbee, Fantasy Zone, Air Zonk, and many of the Parodius incarnations (obviously Sexy Parodius notwithstanding).
Ms. Pac-Man (Genesis) is fully co-op throughout, and has adjustable difficulty by choosing smaller maps.
Super Dodge Ball!
Wai Wai World 2 on Famicom emulator. Don't need to know any Japanese to play and it has great cartoony sprites.
Bubble Bobble (NES) is great two player, though you're competing
Buster Bros (PsOne, and probably others) probably one of my top 5 co-op games of all time
Micro Mages (retro despite being released in 2019 because it plays on original NES hardware) probably top co-op of all time for me
There's quite a bit more but have various degrees of violence so won't recommend those (Contra, Heavy Barrel, Silk Worm, Jackal, Life Force, etc)
Multiplayer is hard to find for the megadrive but some cutesy games,
Dashin' Desperados (Genesis/Mega Drive) is a racing platformer, where the adult can control the difficultly by slowing down or backtracking.
Edit: Cartoon violence - you can freeze each-other, light each-others shoes on fire, and stuff like that. And everyone recovers in cartoon timing, of course.
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