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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

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“Don't talk unless you can improve the silence.”

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[–] vatlark@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago

This post was reported. I agree it can come across as a bit agressive and arrogant.

I think the other commenters are doing a good job of pointing out the many perspectives on this post so I won't take action for now.

[–] verdi@feddit.org 2 points 12 hours ago

This reads like it belongs to a facebook or linkedin post.

[–] blackn1ght@feddit.uk 1 points 12 hours ago

I think it's an introvert vs extrovert thing. For introverts, silence is the default and lots of talking is draining. For extroverts, silence is unnerving and makes them uncomfortable, and conversations energises them.

[–] vatlark@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago

If you define 'need' very loosely then the statement becomes pretty meaningless but I agree with it.

Otherwise there are many scenarios where I disagree with it.

There is lots of valuable talking that happens that doesn't strictly need to be said.

Small talk is important for relationships.

Anyone learning a language needs to talk a lot just for the sake of talking. Even if nothing needs to be said.

Sometimes people need to be and feel heard to feel welcome in a group. It's easy to say that the content of the conversation isn't nearly as important as the act of having the conversation.

[–] Sunschein@piefed.social 23 points 1 day ago

"Boop."

But also, I think similarly for commenting online.
90% of the time, I type out a comment, only to hit cancel and move on. It's surprisingly cathartic.

[–] porksnort@slrpnk.net 7 points 1 day ago

People are bagging on your comment because it could seem really smug out of context, but …

I have lately finally learned the lesson that when I feel the urge to give advice, it is my brains fucked up way of telling me what I need to be doing too.

This new realization means I now leave many more things unsaid, and it seems to be working as a better social strategy.

[–] dumbass@aussie.zone 25 points 1 day ago (1 children)

dOn'T tAlK uNlEsS yOu CaN iMpRoVe ThE sIlEnCe

[–] TootSweet@lemmy.world 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] balance8873@lemmy.myserv.one 4 points 1 day ago

Says the person who deliberately called themselves sweet fart

[–] BananaIsABerry@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Vex_Detrause@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 day ago

Someone not me: "My social anxiety."

[–] Acamon@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago

I read some piece of advice a while back (on lemmy I think) about when to talk, "Does it need said? Does it need said right now? Does it need said by you?" and it really stuck with me.

I'm definitely a talker, and my friends and family will talk all day. But I know my partner can find it a bit much, so having a basic rule has been surprisingly helpful. I might want to tell him about the intresting thing that I read, but does he really want to hear that? We might need to talk about something important but stressful, maybe bringing it up just before bed isn't the best idea?

It is all pretty obvious stuff, but I spent three decades only really spending time with people who talked all the time too. I didn't need to worry about bringing something up at the wrong time, because if I did, they would immediately say "oh I don't want to talk about that because...." and explain or change the subject. I didn't worry about a conversation being uninteresting, because if it was we'd quickly tangent into something that worked for us both.

[–] umbrella@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

don't tell me what to do. i just took a massive shit.

[–] Gork@sopuli.xyz 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] qarbone@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

"Silence 2: This Time It's Quieter"?

Is that anything?

[–] stupidcasey@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

A fart is the wind is better than a fart with the windows closed -Buddha (or something idk)

[–] Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

That's why I stfu in public.

Where were you when someone told me to watch the video of the guy with the mason jar?

I just saw your post during a meeting and I'm about to apply this mantra now

[–] balance8873@lemmy.myserv.one 1 points 1 day ago

Shouldnt this be "improve on the silence"? If you talk there is not silence so you cannot improve the silence by talking. But you can improve on the silence with good words making.

[–] abbadon420@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

Yes, but what is an improvement if silence. If I want to gossip about neighbour a with neighbour b, is that better than silence? It is to my mom.

[–] reactionality@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

This is how arrogant and pretentious people act when on their high horses. Censor yourself and leave others out of it.

[–] railway692@piefed.zip 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)
[–] Jonnyprophet@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

If you meet a great swordsman, show him your sword.

If you meet a man who is not a great poet, remain silent.

[–] Angelevo@feddit.nl 1 points 1 day ago

Hush little baby don't you cry..