I don’t feel like I know what I’m doing but I do feel like an adult. The two are a bit separate in my head.
this post was submitted on 13 Nov 2023
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Depends on the point of view I'd say.
- I pay bills
- I deal with requirements and assumptions the society puts on me as a grown-up citizen who brings better tomorrow closer through hard work
- I deal with hardships of my life through thinking, writing about them, cooperation, diplomacy, listening and discussing even difficult topics - also within my relationships
- I embrace the consequences that my actions may bring
- I try to rationalize my thoughts of the world
- i try to be a decent example to kids and other folks
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- I'm goofy, playful and childlike (you should see my behavior with my girlfriend)!
- I enjoy small, "nonsense" things and they cheer me easily up
- I'm generally relaxed of life
- I get easily (over-)excited
- I am an energetic person
- People assume I'm younger via my habitus
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So I guess I am and am not, in certain ways.
I stopped getting older after graduating college.
I'm middle aged and play video games and even do a lot of stuff like HTB as if I'm 20 about to embark on a new career path at any minute
Define Adult.
My personal definition is "A child with responsibilities"
This means you don't have to feel like an adult to be one.
If you really look past the facade of humanity, that's really all we are.
And my definition of a teenager is really just "A hormonal child"
Lastly a manchild is "An adult that shirks and refuses to act like he has responsibilities, while also whining about them"
I am constantly doing things that make me feel more adult. Like at some point I will have done enough of these things to be an actual adult.
Solid NO, I'm over 35 too...
I’ve always thought the measure of being an adult is when you being to like mustard.
Which kind of mustard? I can do French, Whole Grain, and squeezy but get English mustard away from me.
I work in a school. I mostly talk like one and people bought it. The kids...they know...
It's like the horizon of ignorance in science. The more you know, the more you know you don't know.
I feel like an adult. I'm in my 30s. But i got to make my own definition of adult. Really it's not so much not feeling like an adult, it's realizing none of the adults really know what they are doing.
I sure don't, constantly feel like I'm driving a car with feet that don't touch the pedals. Luckily I've got one hell of a community around me, and although the town's nickname is Shitshow USA we seem to make it work.
Feeling like an actual adult is feeling the way you always have, but going to bed earlier and waking up with a pressing need to pee, but having to oil your joints like the tin man before you can move.
I feel called-out.
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I don't. I'm 29 but I feel like I'm 18~19. Doesn't help that I still look like I'm in my early/mid-20s, so I can't even look in the mirror and remember my age.
As an ADHD-riddled depressed mess who can hardly function at all? No.
I suspect that feeling like an adult is what happens when you start to be less creative over time and get used to it.
I'm not even taking pretending that seriously: if I got busted as a swindle of an adult, I would be like it be like that sometimes