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So i still have depression and im constantly bored, i feel like a loser who cant do anything right. I want to let my creativeness out, make something i can share with the world or family, but im probably dreaming too big. I cant stand being depressed and bored, it stinks, everyone tells me to work out but i lack the motivation to do so.

i usually just watch youtube all day while complaining to family members that have no idea what to do about me.

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[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Anything creative, as a lot of people have suggested. It's highly satisfying to see a finished product you crafted yourself. And they really make you get in the zone and hyperfocus.

Scrapbooking is a good one. Sift through your photos, find some that bring back good memories and get them printed. Invest in a small spiral bound scrapbook, some acid-free coloured paper and decorations (you can get these from poundshops/dollar stores). Look at other people's scrapbooks online and shamelessly copy their designs until you can come up with your own.

Maybe you could even make some for the people you care about. Added bonus of being able to go over good memories with them. Maybe you can bring a smile to both of your faces.

Another cute one is making models out of greyboard (the grey cardboard on the back of refill pads).

Best of luck, I hope you feel better soon!

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[–] Mugmoor@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Whenever I feel this way, which is often, I tinker with my homelab or play music. Oftentimes I don't feel to motivation to, but I know once I start I'll get sucked right in.

[–] hoodlem@hoodlem.me 3 points 2 years ago

I play a video game (usually a retro one) on a low difficulty level. Then beat the computer over and over again. Bonus points if it’s a game I usually avoid because it’s too hard.

Gives a constant feeling of satisfaction at beating the computer over and over.

[–] Dyson@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

Meditation.

It's been shown to be a very effective remedy for depression. It's also a useful tool for getting in control of your mind. If you meditate regularly, you'll find more enjoyment in the things you're already doing.

Also, since it's just you and your thoughts, you may discover something you're interested in and find a hobby that way.

[–] fence_prude@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Making something. I'm taking lessons on metalworking, and it's really satisfying to have something that I made which can be useful in my daily life.

[–] QuietStorm@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

ive been wanting to make a game or something, like that but honestly im not sure, i cant even code, i wonder if there is something easier to do?

[–] fence_prude@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

That's a great point. If you start out with a definite objective like that, it's going to be hard to get past the depression hump. I know for me I have to give myself more general objectives. So instead make a goal of learning how to code. You can find tons of lessons online that are aimed at teaching kids, and they typically have a gamification component to them. That quick hit of serotonin is what you need to stay with it. If, instead, you start out wanting to make a game app for your phone, you'll quit when it gets too hard.

[–] inspxtr@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

Turn the passive watching into something a bit active if you can. I like watching TV, and I sometimes try to analyze the data from them. Similarly, if you like watching youtube videos, maybe examine what it is that excites you about them, if any, analyze and introspect.

[–] PeWu@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I'm positively surprised that I've not seen gym suggestion within 10 comments.

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[–] 20watts@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

Drawing of course 😁! I think it would help to get your emotions out.

[–] core@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

For me, it was running and reducing alcohol to very moderate levels. I'm at the point now that I crave a run to clear my mind and lower my stress. I rarely ever feel depressed anymore. Total game changer for me.

[–] abbadon420@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

A cat? It forces you to do something useful everyday, which will make you feel good. Maybe a dog is even better, since you'd have to walk it, but a dog is a harsher commitment than a cat. You can't skip a walk with a dog, just because you re having a bad day. A cat however, will be fine for a day of neglect as long as you keep it's bowl full. A cat also enjoys playing outside though, so you could try that as well.

I had a kid, which didn't cure my depression, but it took away all my time. I didn't have time to think about depression anymore, so I kinda forgot about it. Though I wouldn't recommend having a kid for anything besides just wanting to have a kid.

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[–] Roll_4Initiative@kbin.social 2 points 2 years ago

Whittling is also a good one, low investment and relatively simple.

[–] taiyang@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

Wow, you're being bombarded with good suggestions. Although I'd like to add an ingredient that helped me with my constant boredom; if you are going to go exploring or hiking, I found going outside to be incredibly dull personally unless I kept my mind occupied.

For me, that was creative writing brainstorming (plot, character development, etc) almost like organized daydreaming. I'd write it all down when I got home. Although I never did make the game given time constants, I had fun thinking of worlds of my own design.

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