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I can't really disagree with this. Sex and sexuality are integral parts of life and as such should be viewed as just another topic for being openly talked and taught. Perhaps if such approach came to be, maybe it would cause a shift towards true liberation.
Sex is such a minuscule part of the majority of peoples lives. Technically "ideally" everybody would only need to have sex 1-2 times (i.e have 2 kids or more) throughout their entire lives to keep our species going.
Most people shit themselves more often than that and there's no talk about normalizing that.
This is a very weird thing to say. Have you considered that maybe it's only not important to you? Because it sure seems important to everyone else. Maybe you are asexual or something, which is totally fine, but it doesn't mean everyone else is.
I don't think we need to keep the species going. Honestly, what do humans even have to offer anymore that AI won't be able to do better at some point? Humans just aren't worth the harm they cause.
I think you might be asexual friend. That’s entirely okay, but you are on end of the spectrum. Some of us have an “ideal” of 1-2 times per day.
1-2 times a day??? I think most people don't even masturbate that much. This sound more like an addiction.
There’s a huge spectrum in sexual expression among all human beings, and because it’s very private it can be hard to you’re bearings on reasonable, but I would say that’s ~2.5% of the population with ~2.5% being team “none unless it’s reproductive.” It’s the kind of shit where you can pick apart the methodology of any study like a Costco chicken because of how complex peoples reactions to their own sexualities can be.
If an “Ashley Maddison” tier thing happened with Grindr… I think about 1/10 straight married men actively have sex with men on the side, with varying justifications/outright denial of the thought of being “bisexual.” Sex is a powerful, irrational drive that can override ethics and self identity - which makes it difficult to study.
There's no such thing as a sex addiction.
What?
2nd sentence from your own link:
https://www.insidehook.com/sex-and-dating/sex-addiction-not-real-and-time-stop-calling
https://www.vice.com/en/article/theres-no-such-thing-as-a-sex-addiction/
It's not real, it's just weird abstinence / No Fap rebranded.
The "Is it an ADDICTION??" Pearl clutching from the 90s needs to go too.
If you become obsessive with it, and it gets in the way of doing other things like putting food on the table, it's a disorder.
Not an addiction.
So, may I assume you never had the potty talk? Most people are made aware of that very early in their life.