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You said there's many that are equivalent in the trauma and triggering. You can't even name one other?
The one I can think of - war - is quite obvious you should check in with people and just say, "I know this is a topic that can be tough to talk about, do you mind?" Eg my friend's entire family overseas just died to the war in Ukraine/Russia. Or someone's dad may have died in a war. Etc.
So go on, name an example, just 1, of a topic that's equivalent and explain why you wouldn't want to just check in and make sure the person you're talking with is comfortable.
Heck, asking you for an example of your own claim was apparently triggering af, maybe use that. Is this as traumatizing as war or sexual abuse? Giving an example?
Friend, you are not getting what is happening here. We are in agreement that there are topics that might need some checking in if anyone is uncomfortable with it. That includes sex, that includes war, it includes health, it includes childhood stories.
I am aware of that, you are aware of that, you are just being unnecessarily confrontational. To which I say: sodd off.
No, you all don't want to do the very easy thing kf asking permission to discuss these things because you want to sexually harass women into conversations they don't want to have.
I promise you that's not it. But I guess you won't believe me so ...