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It's been 9 years, I'm married again (happily), and my ex-wife is never coming back.
It's difficult to go from best friends who tell eachother everything, to strangers.
It took a lot of therapy for me to realize that we both played a part in our marriage ending, and it wasn't all my fault. But, I also learned in the process that my childhood really screwed me up, and I needed to deal with it, and reconcile with the fact that I didn't have a loving childhood. The abuse, both verbal, physical, and sexual has had a lasting effect on me as an adult.
But, most importantly, I learned that I can heal from all of it, and grow as a person.
I think she's happy now, and so am I. So even though I still miss her once im a while, I know things worked out for the best.
I'm honestly happy for you mate, glad you are happy again ๐ฏ