this post was submitted on 17 Mar 2025
21 points (92.0% liked)

WomensStuff

251 readers
135 users here now

This is an inclusive community for all things women. Whether you're here for make up tips, feminism or just friendly chit chat, we've got you covered.

founded 5 days ago
MODERATORS
 

We all have or had have one... whose yours?

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[โ€“] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's the dream! How did you manage to do that?

[โ€“] UnderFreyja@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well the first thing was that way before we decided to have kids we both agreed that if we ever had kids then separated we would not have them live the chaos and woes that our own parents made us go through when they got separated and divorced. Our utopia was somehow co-owning a triplex and us having our own apartment and the kids being in the third unit so that we would be the one to switch every weeks but obviously that didn't happen because we're not rich ๐Ÿ˜…

But yeah, there's a deep mutual respect between us and there's obviously some kind of love but yeah, we make it work. It's not always easy especially when we have relationships outside of our parenting relationship but with communication and boundaries it's doable.

So yeah, I guess communication and having the same goals was the key to making this work.

You've put a lot of work into that, both before you had kids and after. You've really worked hard to be a good mom for them which is great. I agree mutual respect is key, as are boundaries and communication. Your hard work really has paid off!