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There is this girl I have been talking to for a time. I like her, and we also share some common ground. Recently she told how she is struggling very much with anxiety.

She's worried people dislike her, worried about people only pretending to be her friend, people slowly losing interest. She is without exaggeration suicidal about it. More over I overheard her saying she hates people who are only interest in sex.

And here is the damned kicker, I am only interest in having sex with her. Normally when people talk about how they dislike people only interested in sex, I take that as my cue to leave. It's totally fine they feel this way, but it also means we're not compatible. However seeing how this girl is damn near suicidal about people pretending to like her, I'm not sure what to do.

If she's not into one night stands that's fine but that does mean I'm walking (I'm also not interested in any friendship). But I don't want her to kill herself over it either.

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[–] voracitude@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Yes, people can be terrible and cruel. Most of us here have been mocked unfairly at some point in our lives, and there's almost never accountability.

It is best to just ignore those people. In your head you can say to them "Okay, loser" and move on - if they are mean, you don't want to know them anyway.

AI writes technically good English, but it's very bad at writing with style - it's basically only got one style and it's very easy to pick out. If you want to use AI, you should use it to improve your English writing. You can paste your message, ask it for tips on what you should change, and rewrite it yourself; don't copy paste what the AI writes.

[–] kaeurennetwo@lemmy.world 0 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I am not asking for advise now I'm asking to bee understood. But seems like deleting account button is the best for me now. But I don't want to be alone too much either

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Everyone makes mistakes, mate. The fact that you've been gracious and demonstrated a willingness to try to improve makes you welcome here in my book. We are all learning and (hopefully) bettering ourselves on this journey through life. It would be a shame for you to leave because you think you're the only one who doesn't have it all figured out yet—none of us do.

[–] kaeurennetwo@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Yea you're saying I make mistake

[–] erin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Try not to take it all personally. It's a public forum, and no one here knows each other. They are just trying to be helpful. You will have more success if you assume people aren't being mean. There is no need to delete your account. Learning the social rules for an internet space is difficult, especially when it isn't your first language. Take your time and don't be so hard on yourself. Your contributions will be appreciated, even if they aren't perfect English. Have a good day.

[–] kaeurennetwo@lemmy.world -2 points 9 hours ago

Leave me alone.