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I don't think you can really control how someone else feels about something. You can complement her, you can ask her to set her feelings aside, you can control your input to her emotional system, but you can't control that her mom or an ex or an ad or whoever said something negative about it.
This might be something where you can negotiate. In certain places or whatever maybe she'll agree to go with bare legs (maybe not!) and then in general she will cover them. But there isn't really anything you can do to control her emotions—even in a positive way.
10/10 take; I was pleasantly surprised to see this on top of the comments 😍
Thank you for your warm words and offering your perspective.
I only asked her once why she would always strap those leggings on. So this is the reason I know she is aware.
I won't pressure her. I am assuring her that those legs are premium. And I will continue to give genuine compliments.
Just thought; Maybe there is something I can do additionally. And this thread told me in a way: time and comfort appears to be all.
She might be okay with negotiating. Maybe she'll be more comfortable in a place no one is around or if it's dark. It's a way to take baby steps and maybe make her more comfortable in the future.
But also it could just be something she doesn't want to get over, you know? You seem like your heart is in the right place, so I'm sure you'll respect her and who knows what will happen?
I keep this in mind and, when appropriate like you suggested, just offer her!
Appreciated.