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What was the biggest pill you've had to swallow about your own self or habits? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 weeks ago by NomenCumLitteris@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'll go first...after 10 years of speculating in the market (read: gambling in high risk assets) I realized I shouldn't ever touch a brokerage account in my lifetime. A monkey would have made better choices than I did. Greed has altered the course of life many times over. I am at an age where I may recover from my actions over the decades, but it has taken its toll. I am frugal and have a good head on me, but having such impulsivity in financial instruments was not how I envisioned my adulthood. Its a bitter pill to swallow, since money is livelihood of my family, but I need to "invest" all I have into relationships, meaningful moments, and fulfilling hobbies.

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[–] sundray@lemmus.org 16 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I only exist to care for the people I love, and without them I have nothing else to organize my life around.

[–] aceshigh@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

Codependency is a bitch. But it’s never too late to start differentiating yourself.

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

If they care for you and love you back, that shouldn't be a problem, right? Life is, and I'm quoting Solomon here, ultimately meaningless/vain/empty/vapor, what better life could we have than to love and be loved? Not everyone is a prophet/disease curing scientist/victorious revolutionary, the rest of us can focus on just enjoying our lives wisely (fearing God and keeping his commandments = being a good person in earnest), loving and being loved, as it fills us way better than food and shopping can.

[–] 7empest@beehaw.org 2 points 2 weeks ago

This one burns me to the core, and echoes my life. It scares me to know, that without that, I am truly alone