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[–] Impleader@lemmy.world 45 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

it had a cameo from Jeffrey Epstein

Wait what?

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 45 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

What's the point of hating [...] if you're hating something you made up [...] ?

Might as well hate Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind because it had a cameo from Jeffrey Epstein

My text wasn't super clear but I was saying that people who make shit up about things and then hate it for that reason are silly. I then made up a ridiculous thing about a great movie. A movie I refuse to ever watch again but still.

[–] Impleader@lemmy.world 36 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Oh, I thought you meant the movie actually had an Epstein cameo and I somehow never noticed lol

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 25 points 1 day ago

You might have. Maybe you forgot

[–] sartalon@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Fucking Kevin Spacey. So many great movies I just can't watch anymore.

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

For real. Something that blew my mind though... years after the Spacey thing I finally saw the face of the person who made the accusations against him first.

When I first heard the accusations I had no idea who the person was.

But after watching Star Trek: Discovery for a couple years, I was floored to find out that Stamets was the one who called out Kevin Spacey. My favorite Trek character called out my former favorite actor and ruined his career.

[–] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 8 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (1 children)

Spacey ruined his own career.

Fucking Pay it Forward got ruined to by the way. I just said pay it forward to someone earlier today out of habit

[–] brbposting@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 hour ago

You’re aight if you don’t click the disambiguation link

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pay_it_forward

I think we can keep Pay It Forward, I don’t think I knew it was a film much less an abuser-starring film.

The concept is old, but the particular phrase may have been coined by Lily Hardy Hammond in her 1916 book In the Garden of Delight. Robert Heinlein's 1951 novel Between Planets helped popularize the phrase.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

A movie I refuse to ever watch again but still.

Oh, I'm not the only one who can't watch Eternal Sunshine again? Used to be one of my favorite films...

Crazy how things can be tied so strongly to memories... Particularly when it's a poignant piece of art that is far too relatable. Charlie Kaufman is a genius.

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Immediately after finishing it I knew I'd never watch it again. Same thing with We Need To Talk About Kevin or Dear Zachary. That last one is a documentary about where I'm from but still. Somethings you only need to see once. Anything more than that is pain. That's how Eternal Sunshine came out for me. Beautiful in its tragedy but the beauty comes from the pain. I deal with my own stuff as is. Watching movies like that a second time causes me so much anxiety and grief.

[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I watched Dear Zachary twice. No tears.

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago (2 children)
[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago

Although, it might bother me now, as a father. I have finally acquired the ability of empathy in my late thirties.

[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago

I think it's because they're humans. I always cry at the ends of Iron Giant and A.I.

[–] AreaSIX@lemm.ee 6 points 1 day ago

"The act of killing" plays that role for me. The most amazing movie I have ever watched, but I've just been able to watch it a handful of times. Haven't gathered the courage to watch the follow up, "The look of silence" yet.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I've watched it countless times... Like I said, used to be a favorite. Then my brain decided to attach it to the memory of someone that I miss dearly...

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

That's fair. Sorry, my brain is misfiring a lot this morning on stuff I'm mis-reading. That was Weekend for me...

Sending nothing but love your way <3