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Depend on who I am around, I will either over explain things or say the least amount of words possible.
If I'm around people who make assumptions, I will give the shortest answer possible and let them read between the lines. I won't challenge them. If they refuse to listen to me the first time then they don't deserve to know anything about me.
So many guys at my last job thought I was gay. Never challenged them. If they asked me leading questions to try and figure out if I was actually gay, I'd give them a short, ambiguous answer. They couldn't figure me out and that drove them insane. My very nosy sister who does nothing but assume everything about me gets very upset with me because all I say is "I don't know."
If I'm with a close friend, I can talk none stop for 7+ hours, until my voice is raspy and my throat is sore. Even my therapist said I talk a lot in our last session. Although that's not really over explaining things. They tend to be more understanding from the start.
The older I get, the less energy I have towards people who spend all their energy trying to read between the lines.
i agree, and if assumptions that others made about you ever gets you in trouble, just say "i never said that" and that's it.