WomensStuff

I'm probably gonna have to go with the reason my mom gave me the nickname "little lawyer" as a kid. My dad was awful. Did a lot of things I don't care to talk about. He was a very angry person, and as a result I learned some very strong conflict resolution skills. On top of that, as an autistic, I have a very strong obsession with making sure everything's fair. I noticed he wasn't treating me or my mom fairly (understatement of the year) and managed to negotiate better conditions by pointing out when he wasn't following his own rules, or was inconsistently enforcing the rules.

Granted, an abusive person is gonna be abusive regardless of the rules, but my dad specifically used the rules he set as a tool to control, so breaking them in half in ways he didn't like meant he had less control. He would especially use the bible as his biggest tool, interpreting it in whatever way most benefited him, and I would find holes in his interpretation and propose different interpretations.

I do want to note, my dad has received a lot of help since my childhood and made strides to being a better person, especially after seeing my mom, me, and my older sibling leave him. I've talked to him pretty recently and he does genuinely seem to have improved a lot, but I'm staying wary.

Nowadays people come to me for all kinds of things of the nature of resolving disputes, and even I often have people come to me to help resolve relationship troubles (from "me and my partner had a disagreement" to "I think I'm being emotionally abused and don't know how to handle it.") Although I have a bad habit of doing that even when I'm not asked, which people often get pissed at me for quite often. I'm working on that.