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absolutely, there is a whole industry of profiting from sensationalizing crimes (true crime quickly went from blended journalism and fiction to basically reality-TV-ifiying real crimes), and with crimes committed by celebrities that dynamic is heightened

I feel like he has this uncanny non-Duchenne smile, or maybe just a smile that feels a bit inauthentic or forced, not sure ... there is also a shiftiness to him, either way - I'm picking up the vibe you're talking about, there is an uneasiness with him (honestly maybe he does coke or something and is a bit wired, lol)

I usually only buy online if the store has a very detailed / accurate size chart for their clothes (some places have generic size charts where the actual clothes sizes don't necessarily match).

Then I measure my body with a tape measure, and for a new place I make a small order usually with two sizes, usually of something I wouldn't mind having both sizes for.

(As others have said, usually I order from places online that have easy return policies, e.g. pact allows me to bring the clothes to any Ulta store nearby and they have a little kiosk that handles the return for me.)

Usually I have to figure out the size for tops and bottoms relative to the place.

But in general I prefer to buy clothes in person and to try them on before deciding.

no worries, and thanks for your understanding 💕

thanks for your comment, but this is a womens-only space. Hope you understand! 🧡

Yes, it's not the easiest rule to enforce, but to echo Lady Butterfly, we are intentionally fuzzy on the details there. Thanks for your interest though 😊

I know right!?

Thanks for your comment, but unfortunately this community is intended for women-only. Not that we don't appreciate your contribution! Hope you understand 💙

can't tell if you are joking or not, but the International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia is not a day that celebrates homophobia, biphobia, or transphobia ...

Thanks for the comment either way, but unfortunately this is a womens-only community, and we have a rule that only women can comment or post. Hope you understand 🧡

not debunked, just made more complicated - the evidence still points to gender identity being biological, fixed (not subject to social or psychological influences), and the result of the early development of the brain, but ... it's not like we have some clear "gender essence" in the way that some people wrongly assume, that is there are no clear "female" and "male" brains, instead all people (cis and trans) seem to have complex sexually dimorphic brain structures that don't fit neatly into that kind of categorization.

maybe read this: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31509086/

The autopsy studies were done by Dick Swaab, and repeated, here's one of his articles from 2008 (I'm sure you can find the rest on your own):

Garcia-Falgueras A, Swaab DF. A sex difference in the hypothalamic uncinate nucleus: relationship to gender identity. Brain. 2008 Dec;131(Pt 12):3132-46. doi: 10.1093/brain/awn276. Epub 2008 Nov 2. PMID: 18980961.

for a video overview on the science I recommend this overview by Julia Serano: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZymYiwoRoC0

This video overview on the variability of sex is also highly recommended: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nVQplt7Chos

there were some MRI studies by Joel et al. that disrupted the overly simple findings of the autopsy studies:

Joel D, Berman Z, Tavor I, Wexler N, Gaber O, Stein Y, Shefi N, Pool J, Urchs S, Margulies DS, Liem F, Hänggi J, Jäncke L, Assaf Y. Sex beyond the genitalia: The human brain mosaic. Proc Natl Acad Sci U S A. 2015 Dec 15;112(50):15468-73. doi: 10.1073/pnas.1509654112. Epub 2015 Nov 30. PMID: 26621705; PMCID: PMC4687544.

and for a more up to date article with a collab between Joel & Swaab, I would check-out:

Joel D, Garcia-Falgueras A, Swaab D. The Complex Relationships between Sex and the Brain. Neuroscientist. 2020 Apr;26(2):156-169. doi: 10.1177/1073858419867298. Epub 2019 Sep 11. PMID: 31509086.

also worth reading:

Saraswat A, Weinand JD, Safer JD. Evidence supporting the biologic nature of gender identity. Endocr Pract. 2015 Feb;21(2):199-204. doi: 10.4158/EP14351.RA. PMID: 25667367.

Korpaisarn S, Safer JD. Etiology of Gender Identity. Endocrinol Metab Clin North Am. 2019 Jun;48(2):323-329. doi: 10.1016/j.ecl.2019.01.002. Epub 2019 Mar 18. PMID: 31027542.

Ainsworth, C. Sex redefined. Nature 518, 288–291 (2015). https://doi.org/10.1038/518288a

and finally this systematic literature review on the clinical outcomes of trans gender-affirming healthcare:

https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/

I haven't used the barista blends myself, but I'll have to check it out. Also, good tip on the cream of tartar, had never heard of that for making vegan buttermilk 👀

also, despite such a helpful comment, and thank you for that, unfortunately this community is for women only so I'm removing your comment. Hope you understand 💛

thank you for your helpful comment, but this FYI community is for women only to comment unfortunately. That doesn't mean your contributions aren't appreciated! Hope you understand 💕