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We should delegate these decisions to professionals because otherwise, parents like you who go on vibes cause tremendous suffering in aggregate.
Any treatment requires a willing kid and parent, but doesn’t the doctor’s expertise and recommendation outweigh your lack of expertise? I have a degree in this stuff and I would still prefer to take the advice of someone who knows better.
The problem is, it’s easy for us to think we know something that we don’t. Often, we don’t have the breadth and depth of knowledge to make a reasoned decision that is better than the judgment of a specialist.
My son's case wasn't severe. The specialist basically said "I can diagnose him with ADHD if you want" after seeing him for a 30 min session (may have been an hour). The specialist laid out options and let us decide. They never recommended anything. That's the way health care is these days in this part of the country. Don't fool yourself into thinking the specialist just knew the right answer and we just ignored it; that's not the way it worked in our case (and probably most cases).
I feel like you guys are crazy to act like this is a infallible binary diagnoses or that one solution fits everyone. Or that as parents we shouldn't be cautious with a drug that will affect the way our child thinks. That's just bonkers.
These responders don't have kids, have never been in your situation, and feel they just know best with no experience at all.