ADHD Women

I'm grateful that your kid has a parent that's looking out for him.

A key part of this meme is how many of us could "pass" in a school environment by one particular metric (grades), yet meeting that metric doesn't translate to success in life. Passing tests and getting high grades are things that we are told are important, but they only matter for that short period at the beginning of our lives.

As a former ADHD student - getting good grades doesn't matter as much as developing coping skills that we can use as adults. Schools don't teach that. They want us to get good grades and obey our teachers, that's it. As a result, many of us (who were basically trained to be good students) have difficulty transitioning to adult responsibilities, which are very different.

Decades of "teach to the test" and dumbing down of the educational system has resulted in many of us slipping through the cracks when it comes to practical skills. It's still a lovely thing for a kid to get good grades, but it's crucial not to consider it the most important part of education.

Thankfully, it sounds like you're the supportive type of parent. I hope you understand any rants here are not related to you, I'm just still annoyed by the school system and its misplaced priorities.