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A fancy ceremony doesn't change how people feel about the other person, nor the level of obligations they actually have (emotionally, financially it can get complicated). If you're unhappy and they reason cannot be changed (like chronic illness requiring significant care) then you fucking leave if that's what you want. Staying only creates two miserable people instead of one, and your partner will definitely understand even if it hurts.
You literally take an oath at the ceremony vowing to uphold an extremely high level of obligations to another person.
If you're making vows at a wedding ceremony that you feel you can just nope out on if shit hits the fan, why are you getting married? What is the point?
I agree. The wedding shouldn't change how you feel about the other person because you should already be 100% dedicated if you're thinking of getting married.
I made a vow to my wife when we got married to care for her in sickness and in health. I do not care what happens in life, I would never abandon her. Period. That is the burden of the vow I made. In my mind my personal integrity is foundationally attached to it.
If you're comfortable with abandoning a spouse over health issues, the marriage was a sham from the get go. Like, what are you doing at the ceremony? Making vows with your fingers crossed behind your back? 🤞🤞🤞
A lot of people in the current culture we live in do not place any value on their word or honor. I don't really blame people for this since the system we live in almost exclusively rewards exactly the opposite behavior.
But it does make it very hard to communicate with people when you don't have the same vocabulary.
It seems like you and I believe a vow is something that you make and would hold yourself to regardless of circumstance. But the nature of our capitalistic society teaches us from very young age that if it will improve your standing, your finances, or your situation in some way, then it is okay to break your personal code.
With that rambling paragraph in mind, it's not surprising when we find out that most folks don't have a personal code and vows mean nothing more than a pinky swear.
We're 100% on the same page.