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Hey I don't know your gender. Dickriding in my experience is a gender-neutral sport.
I display that I use he/they pronouns, and further using dickriding as an insult purely has roots in homophobia and misogny. It focuses on sexual shame in submission to someone with a dick.
Idk I don't feel submissive on top but you do you ig
Are you allergic to making a coherent point? You're narrowing in on the fact that I called out your homophobia, and are now doubling and tripling down on it, rather than returning to the other points I made. This is just shit-flinging.
Using sexual acts normally performed by gay bottoms or heterosexual women as an insult, ie dicksucking or dickriding, has historically drawn on societal shame towards these groups. If it wasn't meant to demean me, and instead is something you meant in a positive way, then that goes against what you're trying to say. The opposite is true, you're relying on the history of homophobia and misogyny to depict me as shameful and submissive, in a negative way.
We could have had a conversation about Lenin, but instead you quadrupled down defending your own bad behavior.