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on manosphere and incel culture (media.piefed.social)
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[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 4 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I was never a soldier, but what the incel culture tells men sounds pretty much like what the military tells recruits in basic training. The accounts I've read from DIs is that you want to break them down to rebuild them. Take away the family/social structure they grew up in and replace it with the military. The difference is that the military wants them to be proud and adaptable. The Army wants a private who can grow and move up in the ranks; the manosphere wants permanent peons.

[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 11 points 3 days ago

Hmmm you might be polishing the intentions of the military a little bit. The Army wants a private who will follow orders without hesitation or even thought. You break down a person and build them into a tool, a cog in the machine. Yes, some will grow and advance, some will gain valuable skills that promote lifelong achievements, some will rise from a life devoid of options to become contributing citizens. But also, some will become cannon fodder, sent to secure a hill or defend an oilfield or depose a democratically-elected socialist.

But otherwise, yes. Incel culture and basic training have a lot in common with cult indoctrination.

[–] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

The difference is that the military wants them to be proud and adaptable

Lol

Bro, there's a shit ton of military/veterans in America.

Please stop randomly guessing what it's like, what it causes, and why it's happening if you have no real idea and only assumptions.