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Lemmings who made it out of incel-dom, what advice would you have to your previous self?
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Do mushrooms to snap yourself out of your self pity spiral
Just be a better person
Also become a girl
"Become a girl."
Unironically being just slightly more feminine helps turn around your life a lot.
Turns out the hyper masculinity thing is a huge turnoff for most women. Not all, but a huge percentage of women eyeroll at the big trucks and the macho atmosphere.
The only women attracted to that hypermasculine shit are conservatives
Mushrooms annoy me to no end. I don't know why, I can trip on LSD for 12 hours just fine but after 2 hours of shrooms I'm just DONE.
Honestly I prefer microdosing over most other things.
My first highs were not a lot, like 1g, enough to get some minor visuals, and lasted like 5 hrs or so
Same here. A gram of shrooms will have me mildly tripping for about 5 hours but after the first 2 I'm extremely tired and annoyed and just want it to end. It's not that it's too strong or anything, I just want it to stop.
Wish granted, now creeps are out to fuck you, and you still didn't find love.
Shortly after the mushrooms and realizing it wasn't cringe to care about others, I met my now wife of 9 years.
I'll admit I just got around to becoming a girl last year, but if I didn't meet someone, I would have transitioned like 8 years ago.
Wow, so this is an actual life story!
Happy for you two, and hope your wife was gentle and welcoming about your transition!
Thanks :3
She's the best, super supportive.
It gets better, but omg is finding someone hard even 9 years ago.
Just gotta try to be a good person and keep rolling those dice.
I mean, I'm guessing OP eventually actually did it, so maybe or maybe not.
Mushrooms have helped me tremendously as well