Yeah good points. I think the majority of most people's experience with team environments are some MBA or branch manager bossing around strangers, so that's why those sorts of meetings are so misused/overused.

I think face-to-face engagement does help with breaking people out of their bubbles and change priorities, but maybe that's just the way I socialize personally or ADHD or something. I'm not really gonna care much about somebody else's idea unless theres some personal engagement and goodwill. There's also a million other things that I have to do, so I might not send my reply until I've had a quiet moment to really think about it and get into a Google rabbit hole.

But yeah sometimes the team really doesn't give a fuck about the goal you're trying to set lol. Good leaders know that you shouldn't force engagement for that.