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How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.

Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Don't call people eggs, like ever, it's extremely uncool.

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[–] tb_@lemmy.world 41 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Realising one is trans is often called "cracking your egg". Calling someone an egg in this context means insinuating the person is trans (and hasn't realised it yet).

[–] livus@kbin.social 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

@tb_ thanks, got it. Has it been a thing for many years or is it new?

[–] jawa21@lemmy.sdf.org 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not many years, but far from new in internet time scales. Maybe in the last decade or so.

[–] livus@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

@jawa21 now that I'm really thinking about it, I think I've probably seen people using it to refer to themselves but not using it on others as an insult.

[–] itslilith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago

That's how it's supposed to be used, r/egg_irl was pretty big, and now there is !egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Both are mostly people suspecting they are trans, and coming to accept themselves

[–] Turun@feddit.de 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not necessarily trans, it's just being unsure about which gender direction you want to choose. Nonbinary and "actually I am cis" are also valid outcomes after cracking.

[–] Jarix@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Wild that you just called gender a choice

[–] AVincentInSpace@pawb.social 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Kinda? But not really. Sorta like sexual orientation.

[–] Jarix@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Isnt it what LGBTQ+ community has been fighting for everyone to understand?

[–] Turun@feddit.de 1 points 1 year ago

Didn't even think about that interpretation of my comment, lol

When you grow up your sex is like the default setting for your gender. I meant it in the sense that when you grow up you get to choose how you want to express yourself. Deviation from the default setting as a choice, not like you can choose your gender. There are very strong correlations in the brain structure of trans people with people of their whished-to-be-born-as sex.