this post was submitted on 21 Mar 2025
162 points (84.0% liked)

Asklemmy

47252 readers
684 users here now

A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions

Search asklemmy ๐Ÿ”

If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!

  1. Open-ended question
  2. Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
  3. Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
  4. Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
  5. An actual topic of discussion

Looking for support?

Looking for a community?

~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_A@discuss.tchncs.de~

founded 6 years ago
MODERATORS
 

Every time somebody sends me a thumb I take it as "whatever you say you fucking dumbass" and it pisses me off.

And ya, I'm aware that that the replies are going to be thumbs, let's see em ya jerks!!!

(page 4) 34 comments
sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[โ€“] Fondots@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

It depends on the context

If I'm just looking for a confirmation that my message was received, and the plans need to additional modification, a thumbs up is sufficient.

If I ask something like "Wanna meet up at the bar after work today?" And get a thumbs up, that's sufficient. We know where we're going and when, no more discussion really needed.

If I ask "you free to grab a beer this weekend?" and I get a thumbs up, that's bullshit. When are you free to grab said beer? Where are we going for it? We have details that need to be hammered out.

[โ€“] communism@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 weeks ago

Depends on context but generally no. I use it myself to either agree with or acknowledge messages if I don't have anything to add. I don't see why you should interpret it as rude if the person you're speaking to, or people in general, have stated they don't intend it to be rude.

[โ€“] Photuris@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 weeks ago

Not rude at all.

[โ€“] HubertManne@piefed.social 2 points 2 weeks ago

nope but my lingo interpretation is way dated and by the time I uptake something its out of fashion.

[โ€“] quantum_faun@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 weeks ago

No big deal at all

[โ€“] kattfisk@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 weeks ago
[โ€“] Crotaro@beehaw.org 1 points 2 weeks ago

It depend on the context/group.

At work, no biggie, it just tells me that you acknowledge my message and currently have nothing useful to add.

With my friends, who usually heavily rely on emojis and "oldtimey smileys" (like xD or y.y)? Ya, unless you completely eminate happiness and friendship, I'm concerned about your mood / standing with me.

[โ€“] lorty@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 weeks ago

The context will be more telling of if it's actually rude or not. There's a lot of chat software nowadays where you can "react" to a message with a thumbs up and people use it to acknowledge what was said.

[โ€“] Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 weeks ago

Just make sure you don't use it, or fail to clarify and confirm the meaning of its use, in a business setting or you could be in some trouble.

[โ€“] gon@lemm.ee 1 points 2 weeks ago

I totally get you! Whenever I feel that it could be interpreted that way, I don't send the thumbs-up. I do use it though, but I try to be careful to avoid that misinterpretation.

[โ€“] slaneesh_is_right@lemmy.org 1 points 2 weeks ago

Most of the time, yes.

[โ€“] Zoldyck@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yes. It frequently comes across as passive aggressive or as if the person doesn't care.

[โ€“] xorollo@leminal.space 1 points 2 weeks ago
[โ€“] PiomPiom@lemmy.world 0 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Sounds like a you problem. An emoji is just that, context of usage defines it's meaning.

load more comments (2 replies)
[โ€“] teagrrl@lemmy.ml 0 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Definitely is a rude reply. Zero effort and sarcastic.

I think depending on your generation and language you speak it can have different meanings.

load more comments (1 replies)
load more comments
view more: โ€น prev next โ€บ