me_irl

Yep.

Flippant, mildly humorous comment, one sentence: (2,345 👍) (123💬)

Well thought out, reliably sourced reply of one to two small paragraphs: (3👍) (0 💬)

It hits for me when I'm typing it out and I can already read the braindead response they're going to type and I don't want to spend another 2 paragraphs preempting the obvious response and I definitely don't want to wait a few hours/days to explain why they're still wrong.

I have to remind myself engaging is mostly useless.

Sometimes I just delete it, sometimes I go ahead and post it and hope nobody responds.

Here's a tip for how I've improved my social media experience greatly:

Stick to a rule of 1 comment and no further replies.

Strangers online are not going to be convinced by your point of view and there is nothing to gain from getting into a back and forth conversation. Unless it's a particularly positive or productive conversation about a particular interest you share....there's nothing to gain from arguing online and lots of potential mental damage you risk.

Someone gave some advice on a forum or a blog or something a long time ago that really stuck with me and completely altered my outlook about social media and interacting with people via the internet in general:

Before you hit "send", ask yourself whether this is for your benefit, or that of those who will see it.

I basically stopped using socials after that, because I seldom thought of anything that followed this rule, and my feed was so full of garbage from people who also didn't, but saw fit to post it anyway. The internet has given society an ego masturbation problem.

"I didn't have time to write you a short letter, so I wrote a long one."

i wanna say Mark Twain said that, but I'm not 100%

Happens on this platform too

I've written paragraphs and paragraphs about how calling someone stupid is not ad hominem. I've gone 20 comments into a thread trying to explain how analogies work. I'm currently in several arguments about the fact that water is, indeed, wet.

When you're 20 minutes into an argument on reddit and suddenly get permanently IP banned for saying something that didn't even break rules

Sometimes multiple times in a row.
Sometimes on the same post.

Reddit? Nah that's literally every platform.

"and suddenly you remember most readers of your comment will be bots"

If I was the owner of Reddit, i would 100% save in-progress comments, and keep the unsent ones in the database for my enjoyment.

If someone is an obvious tankie or far-right troll, just be like "Lol loser" and never elaborate further.

Yeah arguing on the Internet is a waste of time which is why I don't do it much anymore unless I feel very strongly that someone's reply to my comment needs to be disputed.

Most of the time I make my point then don't bother responding to any replies. It's much more pleasant to respond when it's you're not arguing, just discussing something interesting.

If you had made the effort to remix the meme by changing it to say lemmy, I'd've upvoted.

Hello ADHDers! It really is a health management skill to catch yourself and pull away. The worst is when you do care about the topic and you know you're mismanaging your time, it doesn't actually matter, but you can't not "finish it so at least it's out there"

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I am slightly concerned that I recognized the anime source from that one frame 😅 To be fair it is a fantastic series! Check out Paranoia Agent if you can 🍿

Yep. Me sometimes. Like you know the answer. It's simple and logical. The other person is obviously wrong and defending their position badly... But then you realise it's stupid to try and waste your time on a subject you don't even care about, to a person who cannot be educated.

I find myself tapping Ctrl+A -> backspace faster than I can react to it myself. Life is too short for waiting for the little cursor to travel all the way back.

I do this all the time with regular comments! I get sidetracked by life, come back and see this giant post i was making and go eh who cares and back out.

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I do this, and I have a "graveyard log" file where I paste my discarded posts and replies.