Because when someone is alone, they might start thinking for themselves. Dangerous shit right there for those lacking the honesty to make actually win-win kind of deals
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Ever been to a library? They tell extroverts to be quiet
end extrovert supremacy now!
I really felt this almost sense of justice when extroverts were forced to quarantine and were getting cabin fever after like 3 days.
Explaining to them that the discomfort they felt is what I felt every single day I had to go out into their world with all their eyes always looking at my face and making noises at me.
See this is why I miss COVID. It was the perfect excuse to stay at home and do nothing, and when I did have to go out, the roads were clear and hardly anyone was around.
Pisses me off so much that the extroverts had to ruin everything by bitching and moaning until government officials around the world caved and ended lockdown early.
Bunch of selfish cunts. Literally got people killed over their strange desire to socialize. It's beyond infuriating.
Covid was a mixed blessing in that sense. Moving around and generally having much more privacy and space in public was great, but then the part of you that really dislikes change is faced with the glaringly obvious “this is not normal” public and facing the uncertainty of at least the immediate future.
It is. And also how nature was really rapidly healing just because we reduced the number of people commuting by combustion engine... and then we just went back to how things were?? Like we didn't even want to try and learn from it.
COVID was a historic inflection point in so many many ways, and I fear that we've completely wasted it.
But we must return to office because we need to socialize and our company is so eco-friendly it'll force you to commute in your ICE vehicle.
Or when they demand the introvert start talking but they complain that s/he won't shut up and talks too much.
"Hey, aren't you into (special interest)? Tell us about that"
...
"No, not like that"
I was looking for fun activities that I might enjoy alone. So I Google “activities an introvert can enjoy alone” and all the results were things like “how to not be an introvert, how to come out of your shell, how to enjoy extrovert activities as an introvert”
Like wtf? Stop trying to change and “fix“ me. I don’t want to be an extrovert, im sick of people treating introverts as broken
House plants were a big introvert hobby of mine for years. I kinda lost the special interest love lately though and keep forgetting to take care of them. Oops
Totally agree! You do you, you shouldn't have to change that. Username is great btw
I have even been threatened with termination at work for that. I simply cannot make small talk at work and more than half of the department are tongue wagging gossips that I cannot interact with at all beyond the barebones job requirements. My supervisor sees this as anti teamwork
Yeah, work makes us cone in twice a week to “interact with our peers”, but I work with people on different continents let’s do I’m not interacting with them either way. Anyhow, I got yelled at for not eating lunch with “the group” when I just needed some downtime
Even using zoom isn’t any less hectic when you’re juggling multiple tasks with multiple people on multiple time zones
Amen to that
Feeling like people who are very talkative and/or loud do often get in trouble for that as well. People with a lack of self-awareness of one's own volume and monologuing about things of interest can mean the same people who typically are on the receiving end of trying to be "pulled out of their shell" are also sometimes the people who get told to be quiet.
one of my favorite things is the meta text that calvin is imaginative and quick witted like his dad and empathetic and creative like his mother. he's ultimately allowed the amount of leeway he's given because at his core he's a good kid and they're proud of him, so they let him express himself
something tells me that calvin was insufferable in his twenties. i grew up with the same kind of "support", and i learned that you only get told the truth when you aren't cute any more.
Why did you have to call me out like this?
sorry. hug your stuffie.
As a introvert, I do.
I call their loudness out. Tell them to fucking chill.
You can be introverted AND direct.
Yeah, often people confuse "introvert" with "shy" and learn about "sarcasm".
Being introvert is all the more incentive to be direct cause it allows you to talk less
Leaving this comment feels extroverted, I hate it.
Personally, I love chatty extroverts. They just talk at me and I get to sit there in silence and daydream. They don't care if you're listening.
It’s for the same bullshit reason that any difference in preferred communication style is always won by the person who responds to an email or text with a phone call. Buddy, if I actually wanted to talk, I would’ve called. It’s not my fault you have the reading ability of a drunk 5 year old.
A life hack is that you don't have to answer what I would perseive as an aggressive phone call. Stand you ground and keep the communication in you preferred way.
You’re not wrong at all, but when it happens at work telling them to stop is tricky depending on where they are in the hierarchy.
I always just ask people to email what they just said so it's in writing, so it's clear, and I have all the details, and it's on my to do list. Make me look like I'm detail oriented, like I want to please them and do it exactly how they want.
I know, its hard. I'm dealing with a colleague like this higher in the org. Some are jerks, but I find most people respect the honesty.
I feel like I’m that jerk 😒. I need a way to leave a not for the guys to work on when they get to work in their morning, long before morning in my time zone. But they don’t do email so I have no choice but to text. Apparently a text is something urgent that they feel like they need to respond to immediately. I can’t win
Sounds more lika a necessity. I usually clarify that's it's an FYI in a case like yours. More formal, but prevents misunderstandings.
I’ve been trying to remember this
I’ve definitely been told to stop talking my entire life so idk about this
Ugh I've heard both. I talk too much and I don't talk enough, which do you freaking want?! Cause I can't win either way and I can't win by being myself. Lately I just decided fuck it, I do what I want.
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Gift them books, a microscope, minerals, a vintage computer... Maybe something will stick and make them more introverted. Or maybe they'll see the gifts as an abstract validation of their ways and store them in the basement or the trash can.
Hell yeah. It's always the extroverts that act like they're the default and introverts just need to be coaxed out of their shells. I think that it comes from the common misunderstanding that being introverted is the same thing as being socially anxious. I think they probably go hand in hand, in that a socially anxious person is possibly introverted as a defense mechanism but it's not the same. Being introverted just means that you have a limited social battery that takes longer to change.
Many cultures do. Maybe yours not enough to your needs or taste.
My wife is an introvert, I am an extrovert. When we are at home she will not shut up, she is constantly talking. I however do all of my talking away from home and want quiet.
Because of the recent trend of omitting "does" from "why does everyone," I am constantly trying to figure out what the photo hopes to explain, but then I realize it's because someone is abusing English again.
Oh no, the immutable English language.
fr ong bro u got ohio rizz but im sigma no cap
It's a Germanic offshoot crammed into a Latin-shaped hole, crammed with loanwords, and very flexible with things like word order or structure. It takes easily to the verbing of words because it is a contextual language, and it's full of slang from a thousand subcultures. English is not sacred, it cannot be "abused" because it has always caved to the demands of those who use it. And language purity has long been championed by people pretending not to be racist.