To a degree. I'm the type of person who doesn't wanna interrupt people in a conversation if I need something from them and I absolutely hate that. Definitely should work on being a little more assertive some day in the future.
this post was submitted on 13 Jun 2025
434 points (98.7% liked)
Autism
7955 readers
202 users here now
A community for respectful discussion and memes related to autism acceptance. All neurotypes are welcome.
Community:
Values
- Acceptance
- Openness
- Understanding
- Equality
- Reciprocity
- Mutuality
- Love
Rules
- No abusive, derogatory, or offensive post/comments e.g: racism, sexism, religious hatred, homophobia, gatekeeping, trolling.
- Posts must be related to autism, off-topic discussions happen in the matrix chat.
- Your posts must include a text body. It doesn't have to be long, it just needs to be descriptive.
- Do not request donations.
- Be respectful in discussions.
- Do not post misinformation.
- Mark NSFW content accordingly.
- Do not promote Autism Speaks.
- General Lemmy World rules.
Encouraged
- Open acceptance of all autism levels as a respectable neurotype.
- Funny memes.
- Respectful venting.
- Describe posts of pictures/memes using text in the body for our visually impaired users.
- Welcoming and accepting attitudes.
- Questions regarding autism.
- Questions on confusing situations.
- Seeking and sharing support.
- Engagement in our community's values.
- Expressing a difference of opinion without directly insulting another user.
- Please report questionable posts and let the mods deal with it. Chat Room
- We have a chat room! Want to engage in dialogue? Come join us at the community's Matrix Chat.
.
Helpful Resources
- Are you seeking education, support groups, and more? Take a look at our list of helpful resources.
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
I'm more the type of slowly realizing the look of horror on someone's face as I over share.
I still feel a little bad negotiating for my own needs, but I force myself to do it.
It's too early in the day to be personally attacked like this
Yep.
And then I realized the massive, absurd amount of effort and energy I was putting in, nearly 24/7... wasn't worth it, because a great number of them were still finding ways to find a problem with everything I did or did not do...
Despite them never putting any such effort in the reverse direction, and despite me having achieved significantly more just in life in general than any of they had as well.
Ghosted 99% of them, never had lower baseline levels of stress in my life.
Fuck'em, they don't deserve me.
Oh yeah.
Let me eighty year-old parents borrow my car so they could drive for DoorDash a year ago with the stated intention that they'd save for their own.
Still waiting for that loan to end.
I'll bet. Well done for getting through that
Yep, then realized I'm trans too
hi Trans, I'm dad
I've spent half of it doing so. I arrived to a point where I stopped caring and just let the others deal with it whether they like it or not.
We're not broken, and if they don't want to meet me in the middle when accomodating to each other, I'm not going beyond the middle point for them, actually, I feel more and more that I don't have to meet them in the middle.
I have no autism traits that I am aware of, and I am mostly happy, but I do spend a lot of time worrying about not inconveniencing other people, far more than people care about others or me.
Disclaimer: Doesn't keep me from calling shitheads names on lemmy though
My therapist has me down as being subclinical and I feel the same, but I have the reasonable belief it was more due to childhood neglect/abuse than autism.
"Not really" doesn't cut it, I actively seek to make others uncomfortable on purpose. A child rejected by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth. The part they don't tell you is you can take the child out of the burning village, but you can't take burning villages out of the child.
Nah. Trying to not make them uncomfortable is the best I can do. The rest is their problem.