No Stupid Questions

I used them for maybe 3/4 of a year to one year (dont know exactly) and it was the biggest time waste I have been part of. I usually spent about 1 hour per day swiping all potential partners the app suggested me. I swiped almost everything right, as long as they did not have any obvious red flags or they didnt looked like a person I could be attracted to. I had the radius set to 50km what meant, that I was getting potential partners from 2 larger Citys.

The result of this about 1 year of using the app was probably like 10 matches, maybe 2 actually good chats that resolved into me having to pull everything out of the others nose in like 3 days. That's it. No exchanging numbers, no dates nothing. It only made me feel more lonely due to my "obvious incapabilities to attract a partner" (of course not, but that's what it felt like). There devinetively is a chance of them working (one of my best friends found his GF on a dating app), but that's like saying "theres a chance to win in the lottery, and it could be you who wins it". It is not impossible for the apps to work, but for the majority of people dating apps are an absolute scam that are actively hurting you. After realising, what a time waste these apps are I just decided to give up on dating, because there is a zero percent chance of me actually being able to find a partner in real life. I never dated, I dont know how to do it and at this point I honestly do not fucking care. If by some miracle I might get the chance to get into a relationship I won't say no, but until then I'm fine the way I currently life.

I met my partner on an app relatively recently and would not have met them otherwise. It can be a way to meet interesting people that you would not easily come across otherwise.

But, there are some caveats.

I would recommend trying a few and finding one that fits your interests/people in your area actually use.

Also investigate what the apps do with your data. You are sharing some very personal/sensitive data with them. Make sure they take good care of it.

Some apps seem to be pay-to-win. Do keep that in mind. Also, do keep in mind you are in the minority as a guy. Don't feel discouraged if it takes a long time to get any matches. I notice I can get somewhat addicted to scrolling through the apps and get discouraged when no one seems to like me. If that's the case make sure to not open the app for a while and go outside.

~~I personally think Feeld is one of the least bad ones, because it is great for different kinds of relationships and that fits me well, as well as they seem to take somewhat value my privacy and data. I also tend to pay for apps I actually use, because when the product is free, I am the product. Remember these companies have costs as well.~~

Still, nothing beats starting conversations with people in real life. Just be friendly, open, interested and don't expect anything from the other party straight away.

You'll be fine!

Yes.

Met the love of my life on plenty of fish. Never been happier than these last ten years. 50 now.

It's not easy finding a decent woman on there though, won't lie, I struck gold.

I would say no. While they make the process more superficial and gamify it to the gain of the companies rather than the users, lots of people find partners on dating apps. A quick google reveals that already in 2017 dating apps were the leading way couples originally met.

So I would at least try them, just keep in mind how they work and what the incentives are. And don’t take it personally if you don’t get a lot of matches - that happens to a lot of people. Also I would definitely not pay for a subscription, that’s the scam part.

It's a waste of time. There is so much technology between you and real people that it is just a exercise in frustration.

Work on yourself, get a hobby, go to groups that have that hobby as their main thing, there you will find a new mate or someone who will introduce you to your new mate or someone who knows someone who will introduce you to your new mate or...

Or if you really want to go with apps buy unlimited likes, boost your profile and set up an autoclicker that just accepts everything. If you got a bunch of matches you can ghost the people you don't want.

As a massive introvert it's pretty much the only way I meet anybody. I could write a multi-volume treatise on why people hate online dating and how it points to them doing it wrong in some way. But I'll spare you other than to say remember that you're asking a computer to match you with someone. It has no feelings for you and will just do what makes sense for the system as a whole, not for you in particular.

Just have low expectations - a lot of people treat those they meet on the app as relatively disposable compared to someone they met in real life. So if someone ghosts you or just disappears from the app without a word, it's definitely impolite but not uncommon. Don't take it personally (even though my friends tend to take it personally when it happens to them).

works for a not bad looking, if attractive person, or a well off user. but probably not if your kinda of average or below that, with little to no money so to speak. because its all vain expectations. at least they are using those dating apps, instead of going to pickup artists, which perpuates misogyny quite alot, even if these groups arnt intentionally doing it.

Haha so many people here getting 0 matches

My 60 year old dad found a new wife on dating apps. Give it a try.

Don’t forget. The vast majority of those real ones are hookers or OF “models” or some dude sitting in Asia pretending to be a woman

For a bad dancer even his own balls get in the way.

At least give it a while before you try

We're gonna find out.

6 months ago, I'd say yes. No matches at all. But I've worked out a lot in those 6 months, and I got better clothes, more comfortable haircuts, new glasses.

Imma have my brother get some photos.

I was recently told by several women that I really shouldn't have a hard time as long as I don't take selfies. I make good money, I'm 6'0", I'm white (apparently matters more than I would hope), I got blue eyes, and I have muscle. Im attractive at first glance.

They said I don't need a perfect anything as long as it looks like I put effort in to appearing good. It's something about effort and confidence being more attractive than being Henry Cavill. But I also have to learn to stay to my values and not just fall for the first hot woman I get a match with.