A job that feels reasonable meaningful was probably the biggest game changer for me
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You talk about being fully functional and then about being isolated. Which is it? What are you really asking about?
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Found someone I love to spend my life with and give me something to strive for.
Hard work. Stopped relying on other people to do shit I should do myself. Died a couple of times. Stopped giving a fuck about what other people think.
masculine is specific, do you mean as earning a muscular body, some people only feel good if they have attractive body.
I think they just meant cishet men. Unless the language changed again. Its nearly impossible to bring up the concept without having people jumping down your throat about it.
probably confusing it with hypermasculinity
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On the fulfilling community aspect, I found that at my Unitarian Universalist (UU) church. UU's don't believe in a shared religious text, instead they have a core set of shared values. My church has people who identify as atheist, Christian, several types of pagan, Buddhist, Jewish, Muslim, etc. We celebrate religious holidays from all of them as well as secular holidays like Trans Day of Visibility and Earth day. The focus is on being together and trying to make the world a better place. I also really like the music program. There's a handy website to find a congregation near you, many stream services on Zoom so you can test them out before going in person.
Hey thanks for this. I think I'll. Check one out on Sunday
You're welcome!
Mainly self-delusion 😌
Just don't die and get old
Becoming a father at 28, after realising that is what I want from life; going deeper into the realm of love, wanting to live out the unconditional, unfaltering love for my own offspring. Finding the perfect person to go down that rabbit hole with, getting married, and less than a year later we have our first child.
It was all so easy and natural, made manifest by two people sharing this simple dream. A solid foundation was cast, I got to see firsthand that I can do this just as good as I hoped.
Something also happened before in my mid-20s. I was on a bit of a blue streak. Ended up taking an introductory course to zen sitting meditation. Two sessions was enough. Realised there's a photocopier in my head that spews out thoughts, some of them ugly. I couldn't turn it off, but I could refrain from reading the papers. Found inner peace right there and it has stuck.
Started taking my meds
I'll let you know as soon as I do.
Spending copious amounts of time thinking while out hunting or fishing.
By having a massive schlong
People with one rarely feel the need to assert such.
Antidepressants