not a shitpost

I feel like the days of pearl clutching over profanity are on their way out. There is always a time and a place for it, but I grew up hearing "fuck" come out of my drunken relatives every other word. My parents didn't say it, and they didn't let me say it, but the only real weight the word ever had was that it was cool and exclusive to adults.

One of the biggest culture shocks I had when moving from the US to Canada was how much more laid back everyone is up here over profanity in general. Almost everyone uses it, very few people (save for maybe the elderly) get uppity when they hear it, and I've heard it used freely on FM radio many times. I still think it's trashy to fly a FUCK TRUDEAU flag or decal on your car for everyone to see, but nobodies up here clutching pearls. They just think you're a dick.

Not sure why it's still such a big deal in many parts of the US.

Being a pirate means taking from assholes who do not deserve it. If you take from anyone you're an asshole yourself.

I pirate AAA games because they do not deserve my money, as the poor gameplay vallue doesn't exceed 2 hours. I pay for indie games because they deliver, it's worth my money.

I used to be in the navy, went on deployment to Somalia several times to hunt pirates. I deeply regret it. Because althoug they have no choice and do what they do because of what us western countries did to them, they do horrible things to others who do not deserve it. But in the end we as a rich western society are the cause for their despair. So we are responsible for what they are forced to do to others. I ended up with PTSD.

You can be a pirate with principles. Especially when mega corps and billionaires are forcing society into submission, forcing people to work to just to survive and/or force people to be someone they are not.

Fight the oppression. Piracy isn't a crime, it's symptom of a crime. Also, these days you do not own the media you purchase. It's not theft when you steal something which you cannot own it when you purchase it.

Swear words are ok in my house. Slurs are not ok ever

True and fantastic (especially if your community/family are/were hateful bigots!), but one should still strive not to be a potty-mouth. It's crude and unbecoming, idk, at least to me. It's the equivalent of being a bit stinky (or very, depending on how much one swears) IMO: sure, it might not be immoral, whatever, but you could make the smallest of efforts and not offend my senses... 🤷

Look me in the eyes and tell me you don't judge people who wear red hats.

A couple of nights ago I was in the car with my 8 year old daughter and Killing In The Name Of by Rage Against the Machine came on... my instinct was to skip to the next song, but then I thought "No, this is a song she needs to hear" because if she has questions she knows that she can ask.

A couple of songs later, it was Closer by NIN... I immediately skipped to the next song.

I will insult people for how they dress, specifically people who were clothes with Confederate flag shirts. I once saw someone with a confederate flag shirt that said "Try burning this one" my grandmother saw me staring and told me no. Yes I was working out the logistics of how to set someone on fire, I took the shirt as a challenge.

... honestly, I don't think anyone has ever explicitly said to me (especially growing up) to not use slurs - you just don't use them bcs they obviously harm people, basic empathy & stuff (if the greed of just living in a better society isn't enough).

... but there sure have been a fucktone of folk telling me not to use some arbitrary "bad words" they deemed vulgar. No logical reason given, just random societal oppression.

Nice sentiment, but where shitpost?

Do de have a im14andthisisdeep equivalent community on Lemmy?

My grandparents on my dad's side used to make jokes that were funny when I was a kid, more concerning when I got older, and especially concerning as their dementia set in and they began outright stating people's races in the jokes. In the years since their passing, it's made me wonder what their beliefs on racism were, even though they raised me to never judge anyone by their race and that race will usually be a factor in how people are treated in the real world but should never be a factor in my personal interactions with anyone.

But those jokes had been weighing kinda heavy on me in recent years. I know they had dementia, but was this possibly at the core of their beliefs?

I recently heard a story, unprompted, from a family member who was present when my dad was in high school or college, in the '70s, and made an off-color joke . Apparently my dad said that a car with a poorly done paint job "looked like a Mexican car." Without missing a beat, my grandmother punched my dad in the jaw with a right hook and yelled, "WE DO NOT MAKE DEROGATORY JOKES ABOUT PEOPLE FOR THEIR RACE!" My grandmother was always known for how passive, playful, and gentle she was, especially with her kids.

Turns out grandma was not only adamant about race sensitivity, she was kinda a badass. And the jokes I thought were possibly racist were truly homophone humor about regional dialects and not about people's nationality.

Many golden age pirates were actually kind of like that

Big multiethnic crews. Lots of gayness, transgressive gender identities, liberatory politics. It was extremely punk, but with very very slightly better music and substantially worse booze.