my nightmare is somebody knowing all my unsent comments
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Yea, IDK about OP, but the "well thought out" comments are not the ones I abandon.
I suppose that's good. I just now that I personally will put too much thought into something I shouldn't even be doing.
I abandon ones I fear an emotional person will reply to, and usually I put more effort into thoroughly making such comments bulletproof to begin with, so I’m with OP.
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You know that's not bad. like an "intrusive thought" gimmick bot.
Wait you meant under someone else's account name right?
I'm pretty sure most social media sites save those, what you decided not to say is valuable data after all, and trivial to collect and store. Probably not most Lemmy instances though since the code is open source and I assume someone would have complained by now.
that would be wild. that doesn't sound valuable enough to bother with, even for feeding a shitty LLM.
this is probably bad evidence but every ui I've interacted with is trying to preserve data and only send info once it seems certain you're posting. even reddit doesn't count your comments as edited until you make changes several minutes after commenting. since so many of these services seem to store actions in a buffer before sending, I don't think that's worth the data cost of live recording your drafts.
your keyboard app on mobile however.... yeah that shit is an info harvest on the scale I think few things are
https://www.latimes.com/business/technology/la-fi-tn-draft-post-save-20181218-story.html
Peeking at unposted messages is not new territory for many companies, including Facebook. In 2013, two workers there compiled data from 4 million users on what they called “last-minute self-censorship” — status updates, posts or comments that were written and then deleted.
About 70% of monitored users, they found, had self-censored that way over a period of about two weeks, and that rate changed based on lots of factors, including the makeup of their friend groups. But the focus of the research was all business: With too much self-censorship, they wrote, the social network “loses value from the lack of content generation.”
uckkkkkkkkk fuck what am I even supposed to do with this info. I can't afford to engrave some bullets for Mark Zuckerfuck this weekend. and I'm too stupid to play "touch-move" chess with my comment drafts.
Oh I would love to see all the scandalous unsent comments...
it's not that entertaining. usually either straight up thirst or just annoying argumentative reddit shit that I'm trying not to be. Fediverse is a beautiful place when we're using our better judgment. it's full of people who I feel like disappeared from reddit right before the bad times started and I'm getting back in touch with the part of me that wanted to be like that too
O well. I thought we were bringing out the guillotines soon. That's nice too I suppose.
oh well I do intend to duel you for your username so there will DEFINITELY BE BLOOD 😁 there can only be one!
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I've been doing this more recently.
There's nothing like waking up to that empty inbox.
Recently, whenever I see something in my inbox, I think to myself "oh god, what dumb shit did I comment again"
Exactly. When am I gonna learn...?
I actualy worry more about having an inbox. I always feel like some dictator-worshipper is gonna reply and tell me how the country they simp for is a utopia. ahem .ml ahem
The next guy is gonna come through with an AI powered bulldozer anyways
My thing is that during my 15-minutes of toilet time each morning, when my brain is coming to and my mind starts perking up, I either get deeply sentimental for some reason and start commenting some of the most heartfelt and poetic shit, or I think I'm a well-established comedian and start dropping some weird/gross jokes that strangers could easily wind up taking seriously and think I'm a fiend.
The sentimental stuff always goes over well, but the jokes are either overlooked entirely, or they hit and my ego thinks I just performed at Madison Square Garden.
Post then delete. Or, alternatively, post, then refuse to look at the replies for like 3 weeks because you're not sure if they were trash or not
The most powerful force in the world is the one that makes you delete a draft comment hours into writing it because you know with certainly your comment will contain at least one mistake and you'll receive replies from the many people much smarter than you eagerly, dutifully correcting you and never recover from the embarrassment of your comment being revealed as an archetypal instance of the Dunning–Kruger effect and you an imposter.
Same, idk why I do that, it just feels that it's not worth it. Makes no sense.
it just feels that it’s not worth it
people aren't convinced by facts anyways, people believe what they want to believe (/s)
no but seriously though, type out your thoughts but please also remember that most people literally have very stressful lives and have absolutely no energy to be "educated" (told that they've been wrong until now) in their free time. always stay respectful, even when you're clearly right and simply presenting facts. teaching is more emotional labor (having patience and empathy) than it is about the actual subject, IMO.
This way you can be right in your own mind, and no one will question that your sources are The Daily Mail and Stormfront.
Bro I hate when you have a comment halfway typed up, switch to a different app or go back to what you're doing, hit "close all apps" on your phone, then lose everything 😭😭😭😭
I always copy it into the clipboard like every few sentences.
My policy is I will respond exactly once if they keep going you're just looking for a fight
If it's that kind of discussion, probably best to leave it without comment at all.
Gonna be serious here: 99% of the time If you try to debate me on anything I post: If I can't make a joke out of it, I'm not gonna bother responding. Especially since you're already gonna be debating me on a joke that wasn't supposed to be taken seriously. If it was serious, I would specify.
So in the future if I see you say something that I feel is debatable. I should ask you if it's a joke first?
This infuriates me when I accidentally do it. I maintain a Lemmy client that will save your work as long as you don't hit reload. I'm working on an update that will recover the comment if the network request to submit the comment fails. Sometimes I'm on the fence about posting a comment, but even if I hit cancel my work is still saved.
All the time. Mostly, it's to help me clarify my own thoughts on the matter, but I can't be arsed to write things out in a way that makes sense to others.
can't be arsed to write things out in a way that makes sense to others
Lmaoooo so true. I be like 6 paragraphs deep frantically moving stuff around before giving up
My problem is that people are still fucking wrong and don't care
I wish I had the strength to do this
I'm finding it easier as time goes on. Like I just don't have time for this shit any more.
It's a reddit habit. I feel it too.
Wow, I can only do this one comment at a time
Your time is precious. Do not use it to engage with louts.
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