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submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

Don't forget, it starts today! Do your duty and start today! I know I did!

By the way...

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[–] LordAmplifier@pawb.social 24 points 2 days ago (2 children)

(This is just a suggestion, but maybe mark this post as NSFW? They're sex toys, after all)

I'd love to join in on the fun, but all the cages you can buy at kinky stores are too narrow for me. The only cage that would fit (I assume, based on the product description) is a wide Cherry Keeper, but I can't afford one of those at the moment :c

[–] Mora@pawb.social 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yep, pretty much the same for me. If I want a fitting cage I have to get wide versions which means either custom ones like CK or expensive ones like K3D. And then there is the usual trial&error on top of it. Where others get along fine with 15$ steel cages from Aliexpress, I probably spent 50x as much (and am still not super happy with it).

[–] LordAmplifier@pawb.social 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

(insert the "suffering from success" meme here)

What's kinda funny is, when I wear one of the cages I bought before I realised what my problem was, my dick will look like a Belgian waffle after a few hours.

[–] Mora@pawb.social 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yeah. I needed someone to point that out for me as well. That apparently was too tight. Funny enough I went full circle with it. When I measured for my first CherryKeeper and it basically told me I should use a wide variant. And my brain went "No, that can't be right, I don't have a wide dick." ... and thus I wore too small cages and had obvious issues with it for 2,5 years... until the K3D support pointed that out and basically suggested a cage similiar to the one I got from my measurements. Oops - but now my brain can accept that (but my wallet very much don't).

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 days ago

I had the same problem with my CherryKeeper as well when I first ordered it. The recommendation didn't seem right so I went with what I thought and then problems ensued. After course correcting all bits and bobs fit away quite nicely and no worries about anything.

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Mark NSFW

Fair point. Done

[–] LordAmplifier@pawb.social 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Okay, my next suggestions is that you give me 500 dollars :3c

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well, I literally had to beg for money so I wasn't homeless like a week ago.... so....

[–] LordAmplifier@pawb.social 1 points 18 hours ago

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope your situation is gonna improve soon <3

[–] TragicNotCute@lemmy.world 20 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I want to be forced into being chaste…but can we make my willy look like a dolphin while we’re at it? 🤔

Oh no! The poor Dolphin is sick. 🙁

[–] Zgierwoj@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 2 days ago

If it is what I think it is, then 😡☹️

something something train something something

[–] PotatoesFall@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Wait what are those? I've never seen something like that in certain photos and videos on the internet that I don't look at I have literally no clue

Chastity cages I think

[–] hOrni@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

In this case, it helps You to catch none.

[–] Olgratin_Magmatoe@slrpnk.net 3 points 2 days ago
[–] Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

NSFWSelf Control September Locktober No Sex November Denial December

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 days ago

That's been my justification for the past few months