Ask Lemmy

I just joined Lemmy Today, which is an instance run out of Oregon without any de-federation.

no marxist lenninsts, no tankies

Lemmy's devs are tankies. Why not pick an instance of piefed instead?

I'm gonna keep it real with you. You're going to see the same problems no matter which instance you end up on.

I have no idea who you are, and I don't care. However, purely looking at your account history and modlog, you seem like a generally unpleasant person. You come off as someone who picks fights and can't take criticism. The way you act is rude, hostile, and annoying. You also seem to be into some weird conspiracies, which makes you look unhinged. That's probably why you keep getting banned. You're not being banned for being a woman or a feminist, but because you break a lot of rules, at least according to the modlog.

My point is that it doesn't matter which instance or platform you go to. You're the common denominator. Obviously, that doesn't mean people should harass you, but it does mean you're at least partly responsible for how people interact with you. Lemmy is usually a chill place if you avoid politics, and even then, most people are nice as long as you're civil. From what I see people are just treating you the way you treat them, so there's a good chance that your problems might follow you on a new instance.

Hey, how's dbzer0 sexist???

Shocked at your experience on Lemmy honestly. Particularly perma banned for being a woman?

Solarpunk is good.

Communists, but not Marxist-Leninists

Lol, wtf. Is this another case of seeking that fabled communism that sounds suspiciously like social democracy and is not consistent with any real world communist party's platform?

you should try just not not engaging in political discussions then. you seem to be very outgoing with it, which will attract people with opposing views leading you further down the defence route.

1. stay away from political

2. stay off social media

3. deal with it and/or block them.

you're literally asking for a safe haven from the world, on the world wide web...that won't exist, or it'll be an echo chamber.

also, stop insulting people constantly and perhaps they won't insult/belittle you back... take the high road.

and because I truly don't care, I'm blocking you to avoid further back and forth nonsense which I assume you'll want to start/continue based on a LOT of your comments.

hope you find that small corner of only like minded people..

Id go with blahaj based on your comment history.

Beep.

I don't understand the concern over which instance you are on. We're all interacting with people on different instances, so what would even change?

As others have said, Solarpunk and Blahaj both seem like good options for you. You may want to consider their piefed instances, if that's something you are interested in.

When has dbzer0 been misogynist? /gen.

Come to piefed

Blahaj zone is lovely

If you want a more-politically-censored environment, I guess you could try beehaw.org. They tend to enforce positivity and restrict some political stuff and are into creating a "safe space".

We want to explicitly make a nice little corner of the internet where we can hide from racist, sexist, ableist, colonialist, homophobic, transphobic, and other forms of hateful speech. We want a space where people encourage each other, are nice to each other, are supportive and exploratory and playful.

It's not really what I'm looking for in a home instance, and there's a limited amount of activity there, but I'll give that they seem to have a userbase that seems less suicidally-depressed than some other home instances on the Threadiverse. Note that they have defederated from lemmy.world, as they don't feel that it fits with their policies, so you'll have more-limited access to content than on most home instances. Also, I remember seeing that they were considering moving to some non-Lemmy platform (Pleroma? Can't remember), so if you specifically want Lemmy, that might not work for you if they do such a move.

EDIT: If you take your requirements literally, I think that you're going to have a hard time finding an existing instance that will fulfill all of them. Beehaw.org might be closer, but it's just not going to get you that far. Like, you said that you want an instance with no libertarians. I lean right-libertarian, so any instance that I could use would already be violating your requirements. I think that such an instance would probably need to require users to up-front state their political views at registration time so that that information would be available, disallow users with banned political views from access, and only federate with a small, whitelisted set of instances. The closest thing to that, where I think you have admin-level policing of political views, is probably on the tankie-oriented instances, and you've also said that you object to tankies.

You could set up an instance yourself and only federate with a carefully-curated set of instances that have similar instance and federation rules. But that's also going to obviously seriously limit the content available. Maybe hit !newcommunities@lemmy.world and try to promote it to any like-minded users.

blahaj.zone ?

Going to be a tall ask, people are people...

I think I really need a ELI5 about those instances. Like, I thought the instance doesn't matter, since I can see comments from users outside of lemmy.world? I feel so dumb. lol

lemmy.blahaj.zone seems nice, though i'm on pawb.social and haven't had any issues.

also, blahaj.zoje has a piefed instance as well, im fairly sure.

Sounds like you should run your own instance. We all have preferences about who we want to interact with, and we’re prepared to tolerate some things.

But for complete control, start and moderate your own instance. It would be an interesting experience, if nothing else.

Have been considering solarpunk Lemmy

That instance seems to be a good match. lemmy.blahaj.zone could be a second option.

I've been happy with sh.itjust.works

discuss.tchncs.de

I just want to say I'm truly sorry for your experience. Unfortunately Lemmy is also run by mostly men, probably mostly cis, hetero and white.