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My sister is 23 and still dresses up and goes out knocking doors for candy... and I find it weird but I let her do her. It got me thinking, at what age do you think someone should stop Trick r Treating at? Just curious.

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[–] MNByChoice@midwest.social 11 points 2 years ago (2 children)

In my area, it is less age and more size. Someone that is large scares more people than a small person. I was large so stopped early, but a small woman with a mask could go quite a long time.

[–] xthexder@l.sw0.com 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

As a timid tall person, this comment hit me in the feels. I don't like being intimidating, but there's not much I can do about it. And so many people comment about my height like it's a great thing, but sometimes I just want to be small.

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We have like 4 children in our neighbourhood. If an adult showed up at my door in costume, I'd be thrilled to get a visitor, give them candy and offer them booze (it's also common in my area for homes to offer drinks to parents who are chaperoning their kids).

On a similar note, when my son was about 7, my girlfriend at the time (who was 28) came with us in costume and and went up to houses with him with a candy bag and collected treats. The first couple houses, I actually felt like "this is a little embarrassing" but people just gave her candy and alcohol and I was like "You know what, this is fun!" I realized I was being a stiff adult and should just get over myself (a beer and a couple cup of hot cider with whiskey didn't hurt my attitude either).

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 9 points 2 years ago

No such thing as an age limit.

It was never a "kid's only" holiday to begin with. It just became associated with that over time.

[–] emptyother@programming.dev 9 points 2 years ago

When you have a place to live and can afford a bucket of candy, I think it is an obligation to everyone who wants this tradition to continue to stay at home (yours or someone else if youre having a halloween party) and give out candy to the kids and compliment their costumes.

But other than that, nah, no age limit as long as you can still say thanks and enjoy it.

[–] MJBrune@beehaw.org 9 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Halloween is all but dead in my area, Seattle Washington. Only pockets of neighborhoods put up decoration. If you are able to get to my front door I don't care what you're wearing or how you got there. You get a treat. Anyone elitist with this is literally helping to kill the spirit of Halloween. The holiday hardly exists, stop trying to kill it more.

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[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 9 points 2 years ago

Depends on the area around here 12-13 years old

[–] jet@hackertalks.com 9 points 2 years ago (1 children)

As long as your neighbors know you, any age is fine, just have fun and be happy don't worry about what other people think, just be mindful and empathetic and don't make people nervous

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[–] cabbagee@sopuli.xyz 8 points 2 years ago (4 children)

I started getting judgemental looks in my teens. That being said, I don't know how much I would care if an adult popped up on my doorstep

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[–] selokichtli@lemmy.ml 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

In Mexico, there are two dates for "trick or treat". One is for kids (the Day of ~the Holly Innocents~ All the Saints) and the next day is for Day of the dead or DΓ­a de Muertos, which is for everyone, in a clearly adult-centric celebration. The treats in the first day are candy-like, in the second day it's very-Mexican-food-like.

Ask your sister which one would she celebrate. The rightest answer is both, the right is one or the other, the wrong is none.

Also, if she's watching after some kids, that's great and deserves a treat. Ultimately, as this post and comments suggests, it all depends on the people's heart.

[–] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 8 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I would put together a costume if it meant I could go trick-or-treating and get tamales and empanadas instead of candy.

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[–] Amro@kbin.social 7 points 2 years ago

@JSens1998 What's the point of slutty Halloween costumes otherwise? They're not meant for minors.

[–] mrcleanup@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago (2 children)

When your sense of entitlement outweighs your sense of wonder.

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[–] Son_of_dad@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago

Best part about having kids is we can all dress up and go

[–] Son_of_dad@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago

I want to make a house costume, so I can dress like a house, I will go to the doors, and make them knock on my little door, and I'll open it with puppets to give out candy

[–] TenderfootGungi@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago

A UK sub asked this question recently. Their answer was teenagers. Apparently they are afraid of groups of teens. Therefore only primary age kids should go.

[–] Cipher22@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

I haven't done it in a couple, but I used to have a "trick or treat" table and a "trick or drink" table. You got to choose one. If I was even a little sus, you were carded, that was rare, and never actually caught anyone cheating anyhow. Takes a lot of prep work though.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

Probably once they get to college they're too old, unless they're chaperoning younger people around. New England / USA.

[–] magnetosphere@kbin.social 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Sometime when I was 13 or 14, I stopped. For one year. (I thought I had outgrown it, and was too old for β€œkid stuff”.) The next year my friends and I ended up putting on our costumes and trick or treating β€œironically”. If anyone judged us, that was their problem. They missed out on free candy and a license to be stupid. We had a great time!

[–] yum_burnt_toast@reddthat.com 4 points 2 years ago

previously I think I would have said about 10-12 feels like the proper cutoff, but I took my 3.5 year old out tonight, and at one house she got a king size snickers bar while the teens after us got fun size. this feels the most fair.

[–] JokeDeity@lemm.ee 4 points 2 years ago

Shouldn't be one. I don't give a shit if you're 65 years old, if you knock you can have some candy. It's a holiday, for fun, I don't need to turn it into another fucking ethics test. I just want to have fun and I want others to have fun.

[–] shiveyarbles@beehaw.org 4 points 2 years ago

I allow it if it's a parent or sibling accompanying a child. Or if they have an amazing costume. If it's a grown ass man wearing a trash bag or a $3 mask not so much.

[–] Admetus@sopuli.xyz 4 points 2 years ago

Your sister is having fun and like you say, each to their own. I'd do it definitely especially together with my daughter.

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