A casual community for people with ADHD
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And building yourself back out of depression once treatment starts isn't an overnight thing
I was diagnosed like 3 months ago at 29
It's a night and day difference but it's still a bit rough at times
But I'm working on it and now that I'm able to stay focused on a task it's easier than before, but it's not easy
If you don’t mind me asking, as a stranger, did you start meds? My partner was recently diagnosed at 28, and started meds, but I’m not sure how well they’re working.
I did start meds but I've noticed that the key factor in how well they work is how I spend the first hour of my day.
If I open YouTube or social media the day is a wash.
If I start the day making breakfast listening to music with the idea of doing things that day, it goes great.
One thing that really helps me go with the second option is having a tab already open from the day before that has a playlist I can just start. And it's the only one open.
I was diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD so my experience may be different than someone diagnosed with Hyperactive ADHD.
Also be sure that they're doing more than just meds, education about various ways of managing ADHD in conjunction with meds will lead to far better outcomes than those things separately.
Or maybe the meds don't work for them and they need to try something different. One of my friends tried 3 different meds before they landed on one that worked.
I feel like I have untreated ADHD, but at this point I have no idea how exactly to get the proper help and sometimes I am too afraid to ask. What should I be looking out for in finding treatment?
I just take mushrooms
Do I have untreated ADHD? I hate this.
You are voluntarily here and finding common ground with an ADHD meme. If you've felt like there's something different about you and have been waiting for a Sign, this is it.
Just keep an open mind, since a lot of different things can cause ADHD like symptoms. "I actually don't have ADHD" is also important information, and a good psychiatrist or therapist can help guide you to wherever the truth lies.
I've had a feeling that I might have it for a while but idk what to do. It seems like there's probably not a sureshot way to know I have it? And if I don't, it'll always feel like an excuse to other people.
This is literally the diagnostic criteria: https://add.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/adhd-questionnaire-ASRS111.pdf
Have a go and see if the questions resonate
Thank you so much for that link.
A lot of these questions hit close to my own experiences. I should really get something done about this.
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I was wondering why all these memes were attacking me so much...
Ha, wow. I think I need to make an appointment 😅
Thank you.
Talk to your doctor and/or psychiatrist and they can't test and diagnose. Even being diagnosed, I still often feel like I'm just making excuses when something stems from my ADHD, but it's important to remember that it's not fair to yourself to downplay your own challenges. Acknowledging the challenges you face, and their affects on your life is not making excuses. It's being honest with yourself about what you experience.
Also I have one question. I've always done reasonably well on exams by cramming on the last day (more like last night) when the pressure is extreme. That doesn't take away from the fact that I could have it right? Like I'm good at cramming something under pressure and vomiting it out the next day, but am also awful at something that would require regular periodic studying.
I'm no doctor, but what you're describing would be consistent with ADHD.
Thanks. I'll mention that when I talk to the doctor.
Sorry for the late reply, but as the other commentor pointed out, what you described is incredibly consistent with ADHD. There is a reason we are prone to procrastination! Definitely talk to your doctor or psych about what you experience.
Thank you so much!
What happens after a diagnosis though?
Hopefully treatment :) That can include therapy sessions, and also trying out different medications and if they help
Thanks. I hope it goes well. I don't see my mom being thrilled if it comes down to needing medication.
I feel this to my soul. And for the longest time I didn't know it was ADHD. I just thought I was a lazy piece of shit.
Autistic and ADHD, meds helped but the side effects were awful for me, so I'm just a mess.
People don't understand that beating yourself up is still a shot of dopamine. Drama, including drama limited to your head... It's still dopamine.
Depression, sure, but the constant negatives that come with adhd is still a steady dopamine IV drip.
Yup. Also applies if you're diagnosed but having to rawdog all of it because your body can't tolerate either ADHD meds or antidepressants. So you're stuck trying to kludge together solutions with behavioral, cognitive and lifestyle changes and it's like trying to build a sand castle with powdered sugar. Maybe you can make something stick together a bit, but one big sneeze and it's all gone.
The last frame so much. Leads to low self esteem. makes it worse that you can be almost a outgoing individual but this trap leads you to be an annoying depressive outrovert.
Increasingly in my life, I've found this to manifest as an intolerance of frustration. Need a tool that's not at hand? That project's never getting finished. Anyone have methods for coping with this?
For hobbies/projects or just general upkeep, I find it helps to have dedicated, visible places for things. Myself and my wife both have ADHD, so we're a bit of a mess lol. My wife likes to paint and she has a dedicated table and cart that contains all of her art stuff. In theory, it stays there and never leaves. She'll occasionally take things out of their space and they will be forgotten/abandoned for weeks. When it stays in its place shes more active and doesn't quit on pieces due to not having easy access.
I like to cook and find the same to be true in the kitchen. Certain things go in certain drawers, cabinets, etc. Obsessively. They have to be exactly where they're supposed to be or I'll either forget about them or try to improvise, often with not great results. So I guess my advice is to keep things where you're most likely to use/need them and do your best to stick to it. Having multiples of whatever your "thing" is also helps. Within reason of course. There's no need to have multiple drills, stud finders, blenders, etc.
I always feel called out by content like this, but it’s so true.
I havent been diagnosed but im sure i have it. Getting a diagnosis is a pain in the ass in austin. That being said i think i have gotten better at recognizing when i am in an abnormal state like depression. My mind starts getting cloudy or darker and feel it get heavier. If that makes any sense
I went to my primary care doctor about it, and I matched every attention/stress criteria on their sheet, but I dodn't have anger issues so they said I didn't have ADHD. Yet every time I see a post like this it matches exactly. It's weird to say I think I have ADHD when a doctor has told me I don't have it... But I still think I have it, it just matches too well.
So I guess welcome to the undiagnosed gang, good to have you
Ugh haha! That's annoying, can relate. I got disqualified by my psychiatrist because I can work independently 😂 Fuck haha. HOW stupid is that?
I got pissed, immediately drove to the clinic where I got my referral, got a doctor, and told him I wanted another referral for a second opinion, told him the psychiatrist's opinion didn't make sense to me. He told me it's subjective, and said I could do a self assement. I haven't done it yet haha, but I'd recommend pushing the subject.
And after 40+ years of suffering in get diagnosed, and medicated, and now all the meds are backordered... Back to my old ways
I try to be myself with my excitement but it ends up overwhelming people
Damn. Too real.
I love how this is almost laid out like a chart. Each row is a different category of things to work on as somebody with ADHD. The left half is what to try to do and the right half is what not to do. All we can do is keep trying.
Diagnosed autistic as an adult, but not tested for ADHD...but this image feels very, very familiar.
The always end up being to much hits hard AF.
Don't worry brother, every body dies alone
Depression is honestly no joke, but help is out there and people care. That aside i googled my symptoms and now i have several serious diseases.