Beardsley

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[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago

Okay, I'm fucking dead at this LMAOOO

[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 116 points 2 days ago (8 children)

My wife does this, sleeps to forensic files every single night. But I describe one gore murder from a horror film and she starts gagging. I just don't understand.

[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 21 points 3 days ago (5 children)

He literally asked for something to back up your statements, he's literally acknowledging your viewpoint and would be open to it if you were able to cite any references. If you want "outsiders" to listen to you, you have a responsibility to give them a reason to.

There, no insults, just a suggestion that if you want discourse, you need to have something beyond your opinion to back it up.

[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 47 points 4 days ago (4 children)
[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 5 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Depends on your sex.

ba-dum tsssss

[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago

"Yeah...... not my job"

[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Rule of thumb when you're trying to get approved for a loan is to disclose only what is asked for (income, debts, etc) the more you say and provide, the higher the risk is of having to do unnecessary legwork.

There's a common understanding between loan processors that is essentially "if it's not a detriment to the loan quality, necessary information like an additional owned rental propsrth, or an underwriting condition, the Underwriter doesn't need to know. This is because the Underwriter is meant to scrutinize every detail of a loan. So something completely useless and innocuous could lead to a delay.

[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Unless you're getting a cash-out refinance, financial institutions really don't care what you spend your money on. The bank rep especially isn't being paid enough to care.

[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

If you think your home has increased in value enough to lower the LTV to 80% you can typically ask them to do a "drive-by" valuation to confirm.

[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Talk to your local government about any upcoming mortgage grants. Every community I have worked in has some grant that comes out during specific times each year. Usually just a few grand to cover closing costs, but I've seen some that cover 20% with a 4 year commitment to not sell the house.

There are also loan programs specifically meant for lower incomes; FHA typically has a higher debt-to-income threshold than conventional loans. Now, I still can't afford a house even with that, but I have qualified many people who otherwise would not have made it past the Loan Officer.

[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I am not defending this, just explaining their perspective, but the institution is basically taking a risk of loss on any loan over 80%. The PMI helps lower the impact on that risk, and is paid by the borrower because they are the risk themselves.

If the bank has to foreclose within 6 months because someone hasn't made their payments, they're not going to get the same value the home was sold for when they put the home to auction. The lower the LTV, the higher the chance is that the bank can at least break even on the total loan given.

[–] Beardsley@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

The value you can get from selling it down the line will more than cover that interest. You only really fuck yourself with that cost if you see the mortgage through to maturity.

 

I think gamers as a whole, though specifically those in niche communities, need to take a long and hard look at themselves. We should celebrate the volunteers that create wonderful content for us, generally with no financial gain. Instead, commonly, there are communities that criticize and tear down every little thing they can think of. They even went as far as to doxx the poor woman. We need to be better, and we need to hold these kind of toxic trolls accountable. Especially those of us who are men, we have a responsibility to call out other men who mistreat women in the gaming industry, or gaming in general.

*Edit: I apologize if I insinuated that all gamers are guilty of this kind of behavior, that was not my intention at all. My sentiment is that many of us do not think about this kind of thing, and less are willing to speak out against their friends. We need to be better about that as a whole. I appreciate you as a person if you are already of this mindset.

 
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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Beardsley@lemmy.world to c/boardgames@feddit.de
 

This has probably been asked before, but I was hoping to hear what method people have had the most success with. My wife won't let me get any more games unless I make room on the bookshelf lol.

 

I'm going with a couple of friends, and was just wondering if there's anything I should know, or do in particular? First time going to something like this.

 

This is Nelson. He's honestly fine with it.

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