Kattiydid

I don't know about a metal cord protector but here's a different solution just in case it doesn't exist. when my cat wouldn't stop chewing on cables, I got bitter apple spray, collected all the cables in my house, put them all in my bathtub and sprayed them all very liberally with this bitter apple spray, let them dry then plugged everything back in. Now the only time I have a cable get chewed through is when I just got something and I forget to spray it cuz I guess she still tests them just to be sure they taste awful. And believe me, it tastes awful. I highly recommend wearing disposable gloves while handling the stuff, especially while it's wet and then washing the bathtub and your hands thoroughly once the cables are dry and back where they go. Blegh!

Fair, I tend to think in terms of affinity rather than ranking, i have high affinity with some people and less with others. it's not about rank, it's about... Vibes? I guess? There's probably a better word but codes it what comes to mind.

Borderline personality disorder is a whole ass beast and I'm so sorry you've been struggling with it. I've heard there's a specific version of cognitive behavioral therapy called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy that's been modified from CBT to address BPD specifically. I'm not a mental health therapist so past personal experience I feel limited in the advice I can give. I have had some success thus far working with a therapist who specializes in my specific mental health needs (late diagnosed ADHD and Autism) that I've developed a decent relationship with. We're working with CBT and it's been helpful in catching the runaway anxiety spirals I've struggled with since childhood, as well as reprocessing general negative lines of thought about myself and the people around me.

I hope you find peace and balance in your mind so the need to hide from yourself with the company of others is diminished. Not only because learning to give yourself grace is healing, but because It's so much easier to find genuine connection with the people around me when I'm not driven by fear.

Isolation is painful, I know that very well. There is a vast difference between having no one in your life and feeling incapable of being ok without company. People need community, we are social beings. The best advice I have for seeking friendship is to join groups you have affinity with. If you're particularly interested in politics, art, music, movies, gardening, anime, 3D printing, TTRPGs, whatever it is you love spending time doing, find people in your area who get together to do those things and try to join them.

If, on the other hand, you have friends and community but still can't stand the time you spend alone, address what about being by yourself creates that anxiety? What are you getting from constant company that you don't have alone?

Are you your own favorite person? If not, why not? What qualities about yourself make you feel like you're not worthy of being the person you enjoy spending the most time with? If you are your own favorite person, why does it matter if someone else feels like they'd rather spend time with you over anyone else? I feel if you enjoy your own company when you're completely alone then the relationships you develop with others become more genuine, because you actually enjoy spending time with those people, rather than just being desperate to not be alone with yourself.

Purple!

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This is the way. Thank you for your service!

Here's a would you rather! Would you rather have him be your massage therapist or be his massage therapist? No shaving or trimming or waxing is allowed in either case. If he's your massage therapist he does a full body good deep tissue massage using forearms, fists, elbows, whatever tools need used to get the job done, not just the palms of his hands. If you're his massage therapist, yes his body hair is long enough to accidentally tie in knots. What do you choose!?!

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If it can be abstract I would snap away the acceptance of hierarchy as a method of social control, like historically speaking go back to the first people who decided that there should be a person in charge of all the things and have the people say "Naw, that's fucked" and then that just not happen. Not that the idea of hierarchy not be in existence at all, because I think it would be more effective to have people recognize that it's bullshit and intentionally build societies antithetical to hierarchy rather than to have society's that are ignorant of its potential harm.

If it had to be a tangible thing that I could physically dissolve.... Parasites? Would all parasites count or is that too broad? Cuz if we got rid of fleas and leeches and mosquitoes and ticks that would wipe out huge swaths of vectors of disease transmission. No black plague, no zika, no dengue fever. If we wanted to expand the definition of parasites even broader than the the bourgeoisie class might be included but I wouldn't want to get my hopes up. XD

I theorize that it's somehow based on skin undertone? Maybe? Just by my very limited personal experience, me and my mother have Olive tone skin and we get left alone and my dad and my other three sisters have pink toned skin and get devoured and I've seen that pattern play out in about 20 of my close acquaintances as well. I don't know why that would possibly cause any sort of change besides maybe there's some chemical makeup in olive tone skin that smells bad to mosquitoes? I don't know, but me and my Olive friends seem to get left alone and the pink babies get munched.