LoreSoong

joined 5 months ago

Yeah! great read if you have the time. It can be used to explain alot of things since its a very open take on going from a state of ignorance or naivety to "seeing the light". I think its an important read, since people still in the "cave" are hard if not impossible to "convince" with such a limited perspective on reality.

I further interpret this to mean If we want to pull our fellow man out of the cave, we have to help change their perspective and meet them where they are in their journey out.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 18 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

As someone who is likely on the spectrum, they can tell you are... off, in some way. I think we trigger some sort of anti-sociopath response in people that just makes everyone who doesnt take the time to know you, just feel uneasy. Coupled with the fact that we are anti-social. Theyre going to get the feeling like you intend harm, emotionally or physically.

People have litterally told me, "I thought you hated me" or "youre allright, I thought you were an asshole". The reality is I do not want to be here and Id rather be anywhere else. Coworkers try to "break up the routine" and have a chat. But when my schedule is thrown off, i go home later, I eat later, I have less me time, I sleep less, and I blame them.

All that being said, Ive come to realize that being "in tune" with coworkers IS part of any job. You dont have to like them, but smiling at them, holding doors, offering help, making jokes, and being generally upbeat improves overall efficiency. It takes no time at all, and It will keep people from feeling like they need to "confront"you to get a feel for who you are. Its stupid but its how they feel "safe".

If youre busy, politely dismiss conversations and move on. If you cant thats on you, If they get upset/pushy its on them. For being more friendly, I find that watching TV shows about social groups and structure helps alot. Personal favorites include "The Good Place", "Community", "Star Trek", "Golden Girls". I cant think of more off the top, but maybe lemmy can help add some that resonate with you.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

"The allegory of the cave" Is another great example!

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Its a fight against corps and bad actors. Why attack potential allies? Genuinely hate people like you. you arent better than these people, get a grip.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 5 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I think they were saying that, with the google pixel reference in the post. Graphene also has issues, certain apps and services flat out dont work, Its not for everyone. but it is infinitely better than stock imo.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

Any place asking me to scan a QR for a menu, or need an app for parking probably wasnt worth it to begin with. Yes practicing privacy is not going to "feel" good thats exactly what they want. Just keep fighting back where you can, Make it as unlikely as possible for them to get what they want.

Every person In this comment section has leaks in their system. Unless they are some data security expert, theres simply no way to get by without being "exposed" at some point.

Keep up the good fight. Its worth it. Your eyes and your data are the new currency. Keep their hands off it.

Edit: there is alot of good info in this comment section people should upvote & downvote this post to balance it into being "contraversial" to get more eyes on it. Simply downvoting someone with a "bad take" Is imo unproductive.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 4 points 3 days ago

This reminds me of growing up with my older and younger sibiling, when my younger sib started swearing they had to get a feel for when It was necessary. Me and the older would just look at them with an eyebrow up when theyd swear in situations that did not call for it.

I feel like when someone cant talk without using swears and they are just filler words. censor them why not? Ive seen southpark and metalocolypse referenced and those are good examples of what i mean. If the swears arent necessary to convey the message then they were useless to begin with, and as you said we allready pretty much know what they were from context, I find this pretty funny aswell since it chops up what they are trying to say.

I feel the same way here on lemmy or on youtube etc. If youre a person who swears alot and it has "lost all meaning" just censor it to reach a wider audience. Some people just dont want to hear/read that type of vulgarity and it might even be an issue if there are children in the room or over their shoulder.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 90 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Meow

translation

This is the pond. Its a nice pond. Moving on.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 3 points 3 days ago

It is a good anime but Its been out for years and maybe if they keep seeing it referenced theyll get around to watching it. The episode in question is basically filler and doesnt provide much to the overarching story

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 14 points 3 days ago (1 children)

spoilerDoctor alchemist dad murders them both and combines them into a chimera, Its later revealed he did the same to his wife who "left" him.

People like to reference this because it was a well written horror short that threw everyone for a loop. Its both a form of traumabonding and way of messing with people who are in the know.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 3 points 5 days ago

Interested if you have an article or video you are referencing here, would love to read/watch

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Probably, but im more concerned with archiving the years of information being poured into the platform.

 

People have been talking about this game my whole life and, Im finally going to take the time to try it since I just got it in the steam sale. Also recently many references are being made to draw parallels our current situation many people state that this game "predicted everything!".

Any tips, tricks or external mods I should know before getting into it that will improve my experience or should the game be played as is? for reference I just purchased the Deus Ex GOTY edition

what do you rate this game overall? If I enjoy this game, are the sequels worth playing? If so which ones? What would you rate the sequels?

Spoilers are "okay" if they are required to answer any of my above questions but try to keep them minimal or at least tag the comment with a Spoiler warning. general discussion is okay too! Thanks for your input!

 

Hello, thanks for taking the time to read this. I hope that my SO can read some of your responses and realize that shes not crazy, and Its a major issue with alot of us.

She is 25 and has debilitating social anxiety, She is working on it and making good progress. She has a small group of friends online and talks to them regularly, plays games with them and ever since she started talking to them Ive noticed a huge upswing in her moods and demenor. Lately shes been trying to branch out and meet more people in other online spaces.

She has expressed to me that people seem to just know something is different about her, or they seem to interact with her differently than everyone else. I tried to explain (from my perspective) as a fairly autistic individual (undiagnosed cant afford). That yes people can just sense neurodivergency, and will treat us differently. however I, being raised by extremely extroverted parents am very good at masking.

She, on the other hand doesnt "feel right" hiding herself behind a mask to make people feel comfortable. I tried to explain that, thats just how people are, everyone to a degree is masking. The people who dont, often get a lot of respect for being "real" and or put down by others for being overwhelming or annoying.

Ive tried to offer tools to meet others somewhere in the middle, where i believe most people exist. mirrorism Is a tool that I frequently use to guage the extent of what i can and cant say to someone. I also have a "nonchalant" attitude towards people in general which I think makes people feel comfortable around me. This frustrates her, understandably. Because she cares alot about people and wants to build meaningful friendships. She looks at my tools as being fake, and even points out others within her circles that are unabashedly themselves that get treated better or are more "noticed" even if shes been around longer.

This and other factors are of life are often sending her down these spirals of thinking that are difficult to comfort or reason away, since alot of what shes experiencing is determined by other people who themselves are not always of sound mind. She thinks people dont like her and that shes not "worth" the attention. She is a wonderful presence and cares so much about me, her family and everyone to an extent. I find it frankly unbelieveable that any of what shes telling me is grounded in reality.

Im hoping that a few people sharing thier own experience and tools to work through the spirals. Will both motivate her to keep trying for friends in spite of the cruelty of people, aswell as offer a fresh perspective on being "real" or "fake". In regards to talking to new people.

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