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@AbroadParticular2490@lemmynsfw.com

Is there an update? How did it go?

No, but for a very long time I waited to get what I thought was a normal adult woman sexuality, which in my understanding was a take charge, assertive sort of sexuality and was uncomfortable that I didn't like that.

I have done a mini-domme thing with a dom and a male sub, it was ok that way. Like he'd say "tell him what to do" and making him do things for us, also making him watch the guy top me but not letting him participate, stuff like that. Only once, I did enjoy it.

It's not like I feel threatened or anything like that, it's more that subby guys turn me off, and I don't find it sexy to be in charge. I could probably do it as a job, but it wouldn't feel like sex, more like performance.

It's almost a decision sometimes.

Being physically restrained by a guy can do it, not bondage just with his body, I had a guy once get very excited when I had the natural untrained response to him kinda throwing me down.

Rope bondage doesn't. It feels kind of silly.

"Good girl" gets me every time.

Perceptive people! So intuitively aware of their surroundings and somehow not quite part of them. I get this.

Interior dimensions don't necessarily correspond with exterior dimensions (as my midwife always said, because I have slim hips but big babies) so first, don't borrow trouble, it may be a good fit.

I disagree with the advice to get her off first - get her close, edge her a couple of times but girls can conk out after O, we aren't all multiple, and also it can be frustrating even if you are, because you get so close then the guy cums but will not get you off again! So that is something to talk about, we don't all work the same way. But in general it's getting really turned on that creates the space inside (tenting) not the actually getting off.

I hope y'all have a great time.

My mind, of course.

I grew up before there were beauty standards for pussies, so yeah, I don't have any hangups around that. Mom of plenty of kids, and I love mine for surviving that and still giving me so much pleasure. Like, I can't care about how it looks, it's been so functional. I know there are women who have trouble getting off and I really never have. Clit so small on the outside I thought it was not a physical thing just an area until I learned some were bigger like "buttons" but that has never gotten in the way, or perhaps is an advantage in some way. Inside and outside lips like what I think of as the normal look, not a tucked away arrangement.

I've had plenty of body hangups over my life but never about the genitals. Everyone's bits are funny looking and that's way ok.

Competence. Extreme competence in some area, not confidence, competence. When a guy is really good at something and comfortable with it. Particularly mechanical/mathematics but also cooking.

Real sucker for unselfconscious taker-of-control guys (like even when it pisses me off it can turn me on) but I think I'm in a pretty big group there.

Aesthetically, pubic hair on women is good. But personally, having depilated it all smooth, I cannot like the hair, it was coarse and itchy always when natural. So even though it's not my preferred look, it is my preferred state.

Hate long armpit hair on anybody, I appreciate grooming.

Pubes on guys, they look good but I enjoy oral much more with guys who shave or trim close.

Other body hair on guys, I don't like a pelt or a big beard but anywhere from medium amount down to near none is fine.

So I guess in short I do appreciate groomed more than natural when it comes to hair.

Ah maybe, like a valued possession. I do like MFM in real life, more than two hasn't been fun. But it is great to think about.

I think you might like an Egyptian Musk lightly applied. The Nuxe dry oil also dries down to sunwarmed skin on me. Phlur Missing Person gets recommended, they have a travel size so you could try it without paying too much. It might be too sour with the bergamot. But a lot of stronger perfumes do dry down to something really nice, subtle and human, even if at the beginning they are more assertive and inhuman, that basenote may be what you are smelling. I'd start with the Egyptian Musk, not a spray, something you can dab on.

In fantasy? Being made to be naked at a party, being passed around. Being turned out. Kneeling at the side of my guy while he talks, not being allowed to talk. Serving, yes?

I don't love love any of that IRL, more into being valued but it sure is a turn on in literature & fantasy, I have done some of it and enjoyed, if my partner enjoyed. I think the only time it's a turn off is when women are interchangeable, that's bleh.

In reality the only things I actively like being humiliated around are the things I don't mind or am happy with, like my complete lack of control. Stuff I'm pretty confident about.