These geniuses are so far up their own assholes that they fully believe their own delusions of grandeur. And the view from way up between those cheeks makes it difficult to see any context. So they just trust one anothers bullshit assertions.
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The actions of a man who loves his country and not power? Politicians in the US (on both sides) could never comprehend this.
Yes, they tend to adjust their personality to suit the person they are talking to. Adapting to match someone enthusiasm for a subject, and just generally blending really well with whoever they are coomunicating with.
I find these people are often very easy to like. However, they don't know themselves well enough to be a great relationship partner because they spend too much time trying to be cohesive with the other person.
Sorry, I realize I got caught up in my own ramblings and didn't define the term.
This was my first thought. Terrifying! Claustrophobia has entered the chat.
My little sister recently went through a similar breakup. The wound is still very fresh in her case. I will tell her this information in time, but she is in the processing phase right now. So if you'll indulge me, here is a little advice from a big sister on break-ups with 'the perfect guy'.
Often, guys like this are chameleons. I have seen a few people like this in my life. Wonderful, charismatic people who make the person they are talking to at the time feel like they are standing in the glow of sunshine. They aren't being manipulative or intentionally trying to love bomb the person. It is just in their nature to be agreeable and find meaningful connections with people.
You mentioned other acquaintances feeling like he was a wonderful guy. It is completely possible that he is a great, intelligent, funny guy with whom you had a great connection. And yet, he did not feel as deeply as you because he connects so easily with most people he interacts with.
In your own words, he "cared about me more than my own mom" and yet "wasn't good enough for him and he didn't want to continue the relationship." It seems there is a disconnect between how deeply you felt he loved you, and how much you loved him. This is where a lot of the pain and sadness comes from in the breakup. When that glow of sunshine you were basking in is gone, the shadow feels especially cold.
I do not know anything about your relationship aside from what you have described. However, I fear you have fallen into a mentality of thinking no one else could ever compare to him. I have seen people dating 'the perfect guy' (Top of his class Harvard, D1/pro athlete, sexy charismatic surgeon...prodigy in the eyes of many) and yet, he wasn't the right person for their relationship. People who are accustomed to being the best at everything make really good chameleons. They want to be the best at friendships and relationships, too.
I do not want to tarnish your relationship, or discredit the pain that it brought you. I want to highlight the fact that there are other men out there that are absolutely a better, more unique fit for a loving relationship with you. A lot of the successful relationships I have seen are between people whose glow shines more exclusively on their romantic partner. Often times friends and acquaintances will say things like "I don't get it." Rather than him being so obviously great to everyone, he will be more specifically great for you.
All that being said, what to do next? Focus on you. Fall in love with yourself for the time being. Do what makes you happy, and the right person will be pulled into your orbit because you know yourself and what brings you joy. Your late 20's are just the beginning of the adventure.
I love when rules exist as a clear response to someone's gross behavior. I imagine this sign was posted after a person 'loitered' for a suspicious amount of time, then did not choose a dvd...but everything was sticky afterwards.
Abstract - break down of disasters and crimes with excellent narration and very interesting topics
Rare Earth - highlights uncommon locations (speaking as a Westerner) and the often horrific histories that framed their civilization/cities/people
Micerah Tewers - super talented maker that sews copies of red carpet looks and other fun custumes with some home decor. Not instructional at all, just fast paced and entertainingly wholesome
Ask a Mortician - really fascinating deep dives into what happened to the bodies of famous people, or people who died in extreme circumstances. She has recently highlighted a few infamous shipwrecks...which brings me to
Oceanliner designs and Part Time Explorer - both nautical history buffs that articulate the grandeur and sometimes horror of ship travel
Miniminuteman - archeology videos featuring a lot of lesser known sites that are fascinating. Articulate dismantling of psuedo-archeology bullshit and refreshingly modern understanding of science communication
LadyKnightthebrave - discussing the emotions that film and tv can make you feel. Honestly just cathartic if she talks about a movie you feel strongly about, like the articulate friend you wish you had to decompress with after an emotional movie
Contrapoints - incredible everything from set design to arguments. Long form, in depth explanations about a lot of topics some people would consider taboo, or that people are close minded about.
Atun Shei Films - known primarily for Check Mate Lincolnites which is a comedic sketch that dismantles lost cause myths from the civil war. Lots of interesting historical and film stuff.
Lindybeige - every video feels like an eccentric history professor's impassioned tangent on a subject he deeply cares about, so it entirely derails the original subject of the lecture.
We have similar taste in youtubers! If you enjoy those disaster related videos, I recommend Abstract (formerly Real Horror). Great production value and storytelling. She does all her own work as far as I know, so she doesn't have a huge playlist to watch sadly. But the narration and setup really add a gravitas to the disasters that I feel the other youtubers are missing.
It's interesting to see the hate for this pope from both sides. I've seen many comments from the atheist perspective, rightfully calling out his protection of child molestors and rapists. And at the same time, read comments from "religious" people excited for his death because he dared to be liberal on a few points.
Damned if you don't, damned if you do. I guess. /s
Almost like a singular figurehead interpreting ancient texts for application in the modern world doesn't work.
They are supporting wide scale loss of employment opportunities as retribution for one job that they felt had an unfair result. This logic is inherently selfish. But it will be difficult to change anyone's mind that thinks this way if they are unable to empathize.
The amount of stories I heard from older generations while I was expecting. "Don't lift your arms above your head." "Don't lean down and get a pot out of the drawer." It seems every woman has a story, or the story of a friend highlighting the ever present risks.
The original comment made a big deal about jobs requiring physical ability. But there are so many jobs thill be impacted by this DEI freeze that are behind desks and are probably safer than being home alone.
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It made me irrationally mad that every significant character in the books was a seeker. Like Rowling's shorthand for a worthy adversary or ally was just they play seeker. Harry, Draco, Cedric, Cho, Ginny, Krum, Charlie, Regulus. I know we get to know other members of the Gryfindor team, but aside from that everyone of note is so impressive because they were a seeker.