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Honestly it's a long story but I got a bunch of red flags. It's not that I don't like him but I am just very suspicious.

For me the worst part is that he seems emotionally unavailable. Like he takes so long to respond all the time I honestly think he is seeing other people (if he doesn't have a wife and kids already, lol).

Last time we saw each other he said we should grab a bite to eat sometime but he hasn't messaged me at all since then, and I'm realizing this is kind of a pattern with him.

I feel like either he isn't that interested in me, or .. I mean that's pretty much the only option tbh

So I should just cut him off, right? I mean if he ever does message me I bet it'll be days from now..

Maybe I'm just too clingy but either way, I don't think we're compatible in that case. I'm not used to men being this distant tbh. Usually when I go on a date the guy wants to lock things in really fast and like.. cares about maintaining my interest

Edit: in case he does eventually reach out, how can I decline while letting him know why (not cause I didn't like him but because he doesn't seem present enough)? Or is it better to just not respond or block him?

I'm mostly worried he will catch me when I'm lonely and then I will make the horrible decision of seeing him again

So basically out of the blue decided I need to move out of his apartment and he threatened me with some stuff like that he will get my neighbours to harass me or something.

Police is useless and I'm jobless with minimal savings. I have a place to move back to but nobody to help me move.

I've been trying all day to post in local Facebook groups for help, a few people offered to help me move then ghosted me.

I literally don't have the mental capacity of physical strength to do it alone. He is coming tomorrow to move me out but I know he will abuse me and try to accuse me of something and threaten me.

I don't know what to do. Even this guy I met once before was going to help me move and ghosted me.

I've been in a few situations where I need substantial help from strangers, and some have offered to help (most haven't followed through) but I just can't do it.

For example someone offered to help me move and I just feel super uncomfortable about it to the point where I'd rather risk something bad happening to me. Like I feel super awkward and uncomfortable accepting huge favours from strangers

Someone even offered a place to stay for me with my pets but I can't accept it cause I feel way too awkward and like I owe them or something, like I have a huge fear and anxiety about it

Like I just feel like a disgusting parasite wasting their time and energy and it's also humiliating

Is that normal?

Hello, I got a comment on my previous post recommending I post it here as well.

I had the Philips one but after about a year it's suction changed to the point where it's hard for it to pick up cat litter now..

It must be able to deal with a lot of cat hair and litter.. and preferably be under 500 euros.

Of course I think a corded one is better for my purposes, and I have mostly hard floors with a few small rugs.

The problem is that every year the quality decreases, so it becomes difficult to know which vacuums will still be good. For example, someone may have purchased the same vacuum 5 years ago and think it's great but the one sold today might not compare

I had the Philips one but after about a year it's suction changed to the point where it's hard for it to pick up cat litter now..

It must be able to deal with a lot of cat hair and litter.. and preferably be under 500 euros.

Of course I think a corded one is better for my purposes, and I have mostly hard floors with a few small rugs.

The problem is that every year the quality decreases, so it becomes difficult to know which vacuums will still be good. For example, someone may have purchased the same vacuum 5 years ago and think it's great but the one sold today might not compare

Not a troll post. Why is everything shit?

Is it bad if my apartment doesn't get any drafts in it? I want to block the front door gap, but my dad got mad and said this would cause mold issues.

How and why? I mean I don't live there so why would it become humid?

It's not really an option to keep it open cause I'm allergic to some of the stuff that comes in from the neighbours

Follow up question: is it true that turning the bathroom fan on won't do anything, if there isn't somewhere outside the apartment that air can be drawn from?